Can't believe the responses I have read on here.
Sometimes I post on BH for a vent then I forget about even checking it. It's not about my 15 mins of fame it's about venting and so I can breathe.
My husband studies, I was but my health and mental illness has taken over. I can't handle it. We too also live with my inlaws. It's all well and good to say 'go live' somewhere else. But if you can't get a bond together, belongings such as furniture things like that it's hard. Some people are RESILIENT and good ****ing on you if you are. Good on you for working 5 bloody jobs, good on the SAHM good on the SAHD and good on the ones who are battling to live every day. Maybe this mum just needed to vent.
Last edited by TheGooch; 26-04-2015 at 00:30.
For what it's worth, this is a forum and people can use it however they want. I find it really strange that others get so hostile when their "advice" falls on deaf ears and I think that's because it's not feeding their beast.
If you are giving advice or support from a purely selfless point then why does it matter what response you get?
I've also made posts that have received snarky responses. I realise when you vent, the other bubhub users obviously don't have the full backstory and are only commenting on their interpretation of what you've said in your post. but it's still upsetting.
I think people need to take a step back and realise we're all human. it's nice to have a forum on which to vent and not have to face the real life consequences of doing so.
Little Miss Sunshine (26-04-2015)
Perhaps op needs some time away from the in laws. Not so much moving out if not possible, but even if you are able to get a pt job a few hours a day, one or 2 days a week? You'd be amazed how much good the distraction can do! Plus bonus, some extra $$$ in your pocket! When we lived with our in laws work was the only thing keeping me sane, being in that house was making me miserable, i used to stay in our bedroom as much as possible so i didn't have to be around them it was honestly like walking on eggshells. Fast forward 5 years, in our own place (thank goodness we only had to live with them for 4 months), when we finally fell pregnant and the in laws offered us to move in to save money. I flat out refused, i would have lost my child to the mil, they constantly argue so it's a very hostile environment also. I told my husband if he wants a divorce he's got it, cos if we move in with them that's what is going to happen.
Anyways sorry got off track!
For your mental wellbeing if you are unable to move out do what you can to get out of the house as often as possible to get space, clear your head, relax. Avoid them as much as possible when you're in the house and if they try to bait you just ignore/walk away - that'll annoy them trust me! It's the same concept you would use with a bully.
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