Hello ladies, I'm after some advice on an issue that is really hurting me (and my husband). As many of you know, in May 2012, our beautiful little girl passed away from an asthma attack. From the night Sian left us, we decided that we would continue to sign her name as 'Angel Sian' on every card or letter that was sent by us, as although she's no longer here with us on earth, she is still our daughter and our little boy's big sister. Every year I include a photo of Sian and Dane on our Christmas card (as I always did) - this year it was a photo of Dane holding a photo of Sian. I always sign our cards (birthday, Christmas, Thank Yous, etc) with 'M***, C*****, Dane and Angel Sian'. Let me just add that it's not just us who have decided to do this. Every month we meet with other bereaved parents at a support group and they all continue to include their Angel child's name on their cards, so I know that it's not something 'weird or bizarre' that only us are doing.
Many of our family and friends include Sian's name on anything they send us, but we have one friend (actually a family, but like us all, it's the wife who writes the cards) who has never ever included Sian in any of the cards they've sent us and it's really starting to eat at us (me in particular). Her little boy was Sian's best friend at Early Intervention and she was the friend we called to come and look after Dane the night Sian died, so she has been a close friend. She was extremely supportive in the weeks following Sian leaving us, but our contact has dropped off to texts and the occasional catchup every few months.
It has now got to the point that I just throw their Christmas card out without opening it because it upsets me too much to open it and not see Sian's name listed beside ours. She always makes reference to Sian at Christmas time - something like 'we remember Sian at this time of the year', but that is not enough for us. We want her name included beside ours and surely by us signing her name, we're telling people we want her included. I just don't know how to get the message across to this friend. We exchange birthday presents between her and I and our children and again, I always sign Sian's name on the cards, but today we received a 'Thank You' note from one of her children (she'd written it and he signed his name), and yet again, Sian's name was missing I'm now at the point that I'm just fuming and so very very hurt. What do I do? Can anyone offer any help? Thank you