My husband has been different for the last 2 weeks. Not his usual self. Shut off. Blank. No emotion. Non communicative. Easily agitated. Not helping me with home duties, just sits there on the couch doing zap.
I've noticed this change in the last 2 weeks and I have been trying to get him to talk to me about it, but he just says I'm fine, or nothing is wrong. It's very difficult to have a conversation with him as he gives short responses.
So today it came to a bit of a head when we were driving into work together. I basically called his bluff & told him I think something is wrong & that his "blank wall" is effecting me & our daughter. I told him he needs help. He admitted something is wrong, that he feels flat & he doesn't know why. I guess he didn't have much choice as we were bailed up in the car !
There is a strong history of depression & mental health issues in his family, so it's not taboo for us to talk about this topic. But he does avoid the discussion & will never admit he needs help. He has never received help as far as I'm aware. He is stubborn & doesn't like to talk about his feelings.
So my question is, how can I help him? I believe he needs to go and see his gp for a referral to a psychologist. But how can I help him do this without making him feel like he is being forced to do it?
I'm not about to give him an ultimatum, but at the same time something has to change. It is not healthy.