hi heavenblue, mil has crossed the line. she has said her opinion, and given you many hours of advice, now she is still trying to badger you into doing as she wants "because you are putting your child at risk' if you don't. I think you have to just tell her to butt out, and leave you raise your child how you see fit. she is becoming fanatical and if she doesn't stop you will stop spending any time with her. good luck, marie.