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    Paleo addicts do get quite full on I think because they are just so passionate about it! As pp have said its your child and it sounds like you are feeding her very well but some people - your MIL - are blind to any other way except theirs! If it were me its easier to nod and agree than try fight it and just keep feeding your child the way you want - the great news is I believe the Paleo diet is for the most part healthy so at least you know when she is looking after your kids they will be fed well! ( and maybe look into trying some recipes as they are very healthy)

    I have read a lot about Paleo and yes for the most part I believe its a great way to eat , any diet that recommends no processed foods, and encourages grass fed organic meat and produce can't be bad - but - it's not the only way to be healthy and unless done 100% properly can have some potential problems down the track ( Paleo are huge on offal like hearts and liver which are really good for you but I know a lot of paleos that won't eat them )

    I do think we over use wheat and dairy which is why I do restrict it at home ( and yes you can easily be very healthy without either in your diet) but I do also believe unless you have an intolerance a small amount weekly won't hurt and they do have some nutritional value , plus it's very hard to enjoy eating out ! ( same with legumes and potatoes)

    I 100% agree with the Paleo views on grass fed meat and I also try get grass fed dairy and don't use any oils except coconut and olive as the omega 6:3 ratio is very worrying in today's diets and it does worry me the potential health problems my sons generation will have ( Google omega 6 overload ) plus we try but organic whenever we can

    The worrying thing with Paleo is the excess amount of animal protein/fat - yes I believe we need more protein and animal fat but I think unless we are exercising as much as cave men did ( which is pretty much walking/hunting 10 hours a day!) I fear as all the paleos get older it may effect their health

    My SIL is a nutritionist and naturopath and feels the same way about Paleo - great way of eating and but can be too restrictive and not enough long term studies done as its only really the last 5-10 years it's been popular ( so in 20 years we can see how today's paleos end up!)
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    Geez diet is becoming the new religion isn't it? Why is it that people have to try and convert others to their way of thinking?
    It would drive me nuts OP.

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    You're going to either have to suck it up and smile and nod and scream inside everytime she opens her mouth OR you will politely (or your dh for that matter - it's his mother) say that she has had her turn at parenting and its YOUR turn now and you will make decisions as you see fit.
    best to nip it in the bud now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    Paleo addicts do get quite full on I think because they are just so passionate about it! As pp have said its your child and it sounds like you are feeding her very well but some people - your MIL - are blind to any other way except theirs! If it were me its easier to nod and agree than try fight it and just keep feeding your child the way you want - the great news is I believe the Paleo diet is for the most part healthy so at least you know when she is looking after your kids they will be fed well! ( and maybe look into trying some recipes as they are very healthy)

    I have read a lot about Paleo and yes for the most part I believe its a great way to eat , any diet that recommends no processed foods, and encourages grass fed organic meat and produce can't be bad - but - it's not the only way to be healthy and unless done 100% properly can have some potential problems down the track ( Paleo are huge on offal like hearts and liver which are really good for you but I know a lot of paleos that won't eat them )

    I do think we over use wheat and dairy which is why I do restrict it at home ( and yes you can easily be very healthy without either in your diet) but I do also believe unless you have an intolerance a small amount weekly won't hurt and they do have some nutritional value , plus it's very hard to enjoy eating out ! ( same with legumes and potatoes)

    I 100% agree with the Paleo views on grass fed meat and I also try get grass fed dairy and don't use any oils except coconut and olive as the omega 6:3 ratio is very worrying in today's diets and it does worry me the potential health problems my sons generation will have ( Google omega 6 overload ) plus we try but organic whenever we can

    The worrying thing with Paleo is the excess amount of animal protein/fat - yes I believe we need more protein and animal fat but I think unless we are exercising as much as cave men did ( which is pretty much walking/hunting 10 hours a day!) I fear as all the paleos get older it may effect their health

    My SIL is a nutritionist and naturopath and feels the same way about Paleo - great way of eating and but can be too restrictive and not enough long term studies done as its only really the last 5-10 years it's been popular ( so in 20 years we can see how today's paleos end up!)
    This. I was going to say something similar, but Elijahs Mum has really summed it up!
    I follow a paleoish diet, mainly to lose some weight, but I do think it is quite a healthy diet overall.
    But my kids have dairy, and bread - I wish I could cut out the bread, but I try to minimise it a bit. I don't buy many processed foods and they have very little refined sugar- only sweet treats are things I make sweetened with rice malt syrup or occasionally dates. And they eat probably too much fruit, but in the whole scheme of things I don't think that is too bad.
    I would say to MIL, I am interested in adopting some of the aspects of the diet, but don't see it necessary to cut out dairy/ wheat all together.

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    I've even tried to include her by asking her for some paleo recipes for DS (which she's given me NONE)

    Im at a loss. I don't think paleo is wrong but i think it's not necessarily good for infants? And also quite distressed that she is insisting I'm setting DS up for allergies and ill health by including wheat and dairy.

    Obviously I wanted opinions to help me form a judgment on the situation but I'm not sure I'm seeing it any clearer.

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    I would not cut out dairy or wheat unless medically needed, there has been no evidence to suggest eating something will cause you to become "allergic" to it, seems she is getting her things mixed up anyway, leaky gut is not an allergy! Sounds like you are feeding your child a healthy, well-balanced diet.

    I am on a restricted diet due to medical conditions, I would never do it if I didn't have to, it is a total pain not to mention the cost. Will she pay help pay for your grocery bills when you buy 400gms of coconut flour for $10?

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleBug'sMum View Post
    This. I was going to say something similar, but Elijahs Mum has really summed it up!
    I follow a paleoish diet, mainly to lose some weight, but I do think it is quite a healthy diet overall.
    But my kids have dairy, and bread - I wish I could cut out the bread, but I try to minimise it a bit. I don't buy many processed foods and they have very little refined sugar- only sweet treats are things I make sweetened with rice malt syrup or occasionally dates. And they eat probably too much fruit, but in the whole scheme of things I don't think that is too bad.
    I would say to MIL, I am interested in adopting some of the aspects of the diet, but don't see it necessary to cut out dairy/ wheat all together.
    This is very close to how we do it as well.

    People who adopt the paleo way of eating are very passionate. They want to spread the word. I think that is what is happening with your MIL. So I would listen say 'oh interesting' and then do what you are doing.

    If you are happy with the way you are feeding your child then there keep doing it how your doing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    not to mention the cost. Will she pay help pay for your grocery bills when you buy 400gms of coconut flour for $10?
    This! She owns her lovely home in a planned community. She forgets people have rent and bills to pay. Lol. I can't afford to do my grocery shopping in the health food shop.

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    Tell your mil that unless she is a dietician to butt out. There is no evidence that feeding foods leads to food allergies, to the contrary avoiding foods makes it more likely someone will develop an allergy.

    Cutting out entire food groups or types of foods is absolutely not recommended for children (and adults) unless there is a known food allergy or intolerance.

    Sorry but I can't stand these self proclaimed dietitians/nutritionists/fanatics that think they are experts on diet. They're not. Unless you are a trained dietician or a doctor, butt out of other peoples food choices. It makes me mad! OP ask your DH to get onboard with telling his mum to keep her opinions to herself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pearlygirl View Post
    Tell your mil that unless she is a dietician to butt out. There is no evidence that feeding foods leads to food allergies, to the contrary avoiding foods makes it more likely someone will develop an allergy.

    Cutting out entire food groups or types of foods is absolutely not recommended for children (and adults) unless there is a known food allergy or intolerance.

    Sorry but I can't stand these self proclaimed dietitians/nutritionists/fanatics that think they are experts on diet. They're not. Unless you are a trained dietician or a doctor, butt out of other peoples food choices. It makes me mad! OP ask your DH to get onboard with telling his mum to keep her opinions to herself.
    This is the hard part. His father passed when he was young so he is especially connected with his mother. According to him, she can do no wrong. He honestly thinks there is nothing wrong with her advice. I can tell when he's been around her or talking to her a lot though, he starts sounding like her.

    I may have to try to find a tactful way of bringing the issue up with him. That's not going to be easy but it sure beats the hell out of telling her directly to kindly shut it.


 

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