This may be my thread but I am signing off. Please never assume other people know nothing. I am sorry you went through that and I am glad you are now away from it. That is what I wish for every woman in an abusive situation but I hope also that people learn some compassion.
Its not okay for anyone to threaten anybody else or make them fearful of violence. And no one is saying that is okay.
But right now we're focussing on the issue of mens' violent threats towards women because its an escalating problem in Australia and the way that popular culture minimises mens aggression towards women (as illustrated by the handling of the Merv Hughes threat) is disturbing.
Saying that one thing is a big problem, does not meant that nothing else is a problem. Its just saying, 'hey, we have a problem here, can we please focus on that and try to find solutions'.
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I never watch any 'reality tv'. this show seems to be on twice a day. ? I agree the producers should have edited this from the show. they only think of the ratings, and the more people talk about it, the more people will tune in. domestic violence is not a joke, and which ever way the violence happens, man to man, man to woman or woman to man, or woman to woman, it is wrong, and we need to stop it. allowing such a incident to be aired is not going to help stop it. marie
I don't own a tv and will not be looking it up online.
However I am glad they showed it. So many people make comments like this and they are swept under the carpet. Violence against women is on the rise but very few acts are reported on in the news so it is easy to think they dont occur. So many "nice men" and "top blokes" are the instigators of this violence and the jokes quickly turn bad.
We need to see more of this in the media not to normalise it but to show that it does happen and the nice guys do, do it. This will stop women feeling isolated and ashamed of it occuring to them.
Merv is a nice guy and was having a joke BUT it is also violence and i hope more people because of this understand they are two seperate parts of the one person. If it helps even one women get help and realise that she is not alone from watching it. I think it is a good thing.
Did anyone listen to the Matt and Jane show on the radio this morning when they were discussing this incident? Because
I have zero respect for Matt Tilly...and I get annoyed when he runs his mouth giving his manpinion as if it matters. And especially annoyed when he interrupts a woman speaking about these problems.
Gettin' real fed up with people brushing this stuff under the rug. Honestly, as soon as the word "joke" is thrown around it makes whatever sh*tty thing a person said acceptable. "Oh, it's fine it was just a joke people take things too seriously"...just...no. Pretty sure men make threats like this to women on a regular basis and many go through with said threats. I wish people would just think critically once in a while and assess WHY something might be harmful instead of accepting that a certain thing was said in jest. Jokes don't HAVE to be harmful to be funny.
As for the whole women can do this men can't...the violence women commit against men isn't nearly at the rate that the violence men commit against women is. That's not to say threatening men isn't wrong because it is, but can we not compare them like it's the same thing? Violence against women is glorified all the time (ala 50 Shades of Abuse) and then disguised as either a joke, love story or "fun". Women are blamed for the acts men commit against them all the time, too. I'm just tired of things being discribed as anything and everything other than blatant misogyny. It gives ALL men a free pass to say and do bad things. And it's happened so often where there has been no consequences.
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