Thanks Excuse my French! That is a lot of great advice!
I'm really glad to hear you were able to persuade your PHI I will definitely be doing my best to persuade mine tomorrow otherwise I will look into a doula I don't know much about them but a lot of the above posters have recomended one too so I think it's something I should definitely look into!
The cost of going private definitely is a concern particularly now that I have hypermesis and have been unable to work but I think it would definitely be worth it I hope they will let me back pay, we have been with our PHI for years so maybe that will work in my favour! You've given me some hope! Thank you!