Thanks heartstrings! Do you mind if I ask where you had you bub? I will be going through Gold Coast hospital. I'm glad to hear that you weren't in pain during your labor! I will be having an epidural too but I am still scared of pain and things going wrong the unknown is very very scary!
It really helps to hear that your birth wasn't as bad as you thought it would be and that you actually wanted to go home from hospital before they kicked you out. I hope things go as well for me!
Ive birthed 2 babies and Im still scared of giving birth, I think thats a logical thing to be honest.
Birthing a baby is painful, its very worth it but yes it hurts,
I was up at 2 am the morning I went into labour with my first freaking out about what I had volunteered to put myself through (then I did it a second time and if I have the opportunity may do it a third )
my second birth was a hell of a lot more painful than my first but I did it without drugs so of course it was but in the 10 minutes after birth all I could think was HOLY **** I DID THAT? ME? this little person just came OUT of me, holy crap Im like amazing <- talk about birth high or what?
I couldnt wait to get home both times, went public and was kept in for 7 days and 5 days, depending on hospital size I dont think they push you out if youre not coping, also nsw have a home visit mchn scheme for first time mums
Thanks for your reply MrsSS, I'm sorry to hear things didn't go all that smoothly for you!
I realize they are not going to make me leave if there are complications but even if all goes well I imagine I will be sore and need some support, maybe I'm just overreacting but this is all very scary!
They can't force you out the door. If they feel you need to stay an extra day then they will usually let you, however you may be at a detriment if it means you'd no longer be eligible for home visits.
You may feel like the hospital isn't being supportive by discharging people home so soon after birth but keep in mind that they would still do home visits. I personally hate staying in hospital and the earlier I can get out, the better. Staying in hospital another day wouldn't necessarily mean that you would have any more confidence or knowledge when you go home.
Please don't spend the next 25 weeks stressing over something that is out of your control. If you stress over it now, you'll stress too much in the first few days after baby is born and may be more likely struggle to cope. Just wait and see what happens when baby is born, and IF when the time comes you don't feel like you would cope going home, talk to your midwives. I often find that sometimes the information given in antenatal clinic isn't always 100% accurate in what actually happens on the wards. To the staff in clinic it's all black and white. They don't always see the grey areas that we do on the wards.
I think it's really silly to be honest, I think it should be a minimum 1 night and maximum 2 nights, obviously c-sec and/or other issues would need a few days longer.
Last edited by Mumlife86; 25-05-2015 at 07:37.
Thanks Delirium, I don't think its the midwives fault either, the system just sucks!
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