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    Unhappy Terrified of birth & being made to leave hospital before I'm ready!

    Completely freaked out!

    I'm 15 weeks pregnant and made the irreversible decision to go public as I live near a brand new public hospital and have heard good things about it, I was also worried about the cost of going private. Now after speaking to midwives, I have started to feel extremely anxious and keep ending up in tears with worry!

    It has been made very clear to me over and over that I will have to leave the hospital within 6-24 hours after birth.

    I am already extremely terrified of labor and I now feel like the hospital are just going to push me out before I am ready and without the support that I need. I have been told by other mums that it is so important to have those days in hospital to recuperate and to have the support of hospital staff.

    Am I being ridiculous or have I made a really bad decision?

    Also is giving birth something I should be this scared over?
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    We have private health but not covered for pregnancy, has anyone been successful in adding pregnancy to their policy at this late stage? We'd be happy to back pay the insurance so that we're not skipping the waiting period but I can't seem to find a way to make this happen.

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    Default Terrified of birth & being made to leave hospital before I'm ready!

    Im not 100% positive but im sure they cant make you leave, I have never heard of this before? Is it a small hospital? It could be they just need the beds :/
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    Congratulations!
    It is really common to be scared of these things so please don't feel silly or alone. In saying that I really think it's the unknown that is the scariest thing and there is heaps you can do to take control and overcome your fears.
    It sounds like you might need a bit more support but lucky for you there are HEAPS of places to get support other then your hospital. Do you know about doulas? Student midwives? Or other organizations in your area? What state are you in??? If it's WA I can give you some more specific ideas.
    I know it's hard to believe but for me, birth was the most amazing and powerful thing I have ever done. Yes it was difficult but I honestly feel privileged that I got to do it. And just remember..... Most people go back to do it again and again so it really can't be as scary as some people say!

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    It's my experience that your stay in hospital will depend on how the birth goes. For first time Mums I would expect they would let you stay a bit longer. Make no mistake, taking your first newborn home from hospital is terrifying!! I had only held a baby once in my life before taking my newborn son home. Whilst in hospital I was shown how to change a nappy and bath my baby. It was still scary doing this the first time though!!

    You would usually have a midwife come visit you at home every day or every other day for the first few weeks. This can be quite comforting. They are not there to get a cup of tea either so don't stress if your place isn't pristine. I remember the first time the midwife came to visit I had made the rookie mistake of not letting DS finish pooing before changing his nappy.

    It is a huge learning curve but millions of women before you have done it!

    If you're planning on breastfeeding then I would strongly recommend taking ante-natal classes that cover moving around when pregnant, pain relief (natural and medicated) during labour, taking care of your baby and breastfeeding. I would also recommend the book Baby Love, it's has practical advice for the first time parents.

    You have a while to get used to the idea of labour but I would suggest reading some birth stories!! Work out what sort of birth you would like to aim for and if continuity of care is important to you and how you can get that at the hospital you're at.

    Stick around, ask questions, there is no such thing as a stupid question here.

    Best of luck!!

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    I went public. I was in a caseload midwifery program with the aim of getting you home 12 hours or the next day after your birth if all went well, with follow up home visits. I was all set for this. I'm a nurse and I didn't want to stay in hospital. My birth ended up not going very well with DD born at 6am and me in theatre at like 7am. We stayed overnight with the hope of going home the next day. Initially they wanted me to stay for the weekend (another 2 nights at least), but with the support of my caseload midwife I was able to go home on day 2 as I wished. We had 2 midwife home visits and 2 visits from my MCH nurse. I felt well supported in hospital and well supported at home. I think that your discharge will depend very much on your birth and baby. I've found that my care didn't stop once I left hospital. I had midwives I could call if I was uncertain and the breastfeeding clinic which I accessed a few weeks after we went home.
    Does your hospital have a caseload program? If not, you could consider doing shared care with a private midwife. This would give you ample support pre and post birth.
    In regards to feeling anxious about labour and birth, totally normal. I'd recommend going to your birth classes at hospital, doing plenty of reading about what you do and don't want, and also consider a class such as clam birth or hypnobirth to help you feel empowered for your birth.

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    Thanks Mumlife it's not a small hospital, I think this may be a QLD thing because it's written in my pregnancy health record that is issued by the QLD government and every time I speak to a midwife it seems to be one of the first things they say. Did you go private or public?

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    Thankyou RedCreamingsoda!

    Your reply was really nice to read! I don't live in WA I'm in QLD but I have signed up for a student midwife I have only met her once but she will be coming to my next antenatal appt hopefully she will be helpful!

    It's really nice to hear the positive things you have to say about your birth! I'm really looking forward to meeting my baby and imagine it would be the most wonderful experience I just can't stop all these fears!

    Thanks so much again!

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    It's in there to give women the option. The only time we have ever actually asked women if they want to be discharged from birth suite (so 6hrs post delivery) is when we literally have no spare beds anywhere in the hospital... And we are a big hospital. It is different from hospital to hospital, but our general guideline for public women is that their MAXIMUM length of stay after a normal vaginal birth is 72hrs and for a Caesarean section 96hrs. Women who stay longer than this will have had some sort of complication - haemorrhage, jaundiced baby requiring treatment, infection etc. To access the midwifery home care program women must be discharged within this time frame. Outside of these times they're not funded for visits. Most women will go home on day 2 or day 3. It's not like you're cut off from help when you walk out of the hospital doors. Publicly you will have access to a home visit program, child health have drop in clinics especially for new mums and babies up to 4 weeks of age with specialised advice and feeding support.

    As a pp mentioned, look into a doula, student midwife or midwifery group practice (caseload midwifery) for added support. Given you seem quite anxious about the birth as well I would suggest looking into doing a calm birth course or the like to try and prepare you as much as you can for labour and birth. Knowledge is power. As a pp said above, the fear of the unknown is often what frightens us the most, so do what you can to inform yourself so that your fear is reduced. Just make sure you use reputable sources and don't just rely on blogs, friends experiences etc as they don't often reflect the "real world". Most personal experiences are of the extreme - extremely positive or extremely negative. You never hear about the run of the mill that makes up the majority of births.

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    I went public in Qld & i was told id go home after 48 hours. In fact i stayed an extra day as we had issues with breastfeeding.

    I was worried about it too before i gave birth but after having him i just wanted to go home, i hated being in hospital.

    I was terrified about giving birth & this was exacerbated by the fact that i have an anxiety disorder. It really wasnt that bad. I chose to have an epidural which was the right thing for me as i wasnt in pain (dont handle pain well) so i was able to relax so much more. Excitement about meeting my baby took over then too.

    Good luck!

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