Im a (newly) single mum to 1 x 5 year old girl & I need help.
For the first couple of weeks her father was fairly attentive, now he wont answer our calls.
My daughter is finding this especially hard. I just keep telling her he is working & we will talk to him soon but she knows how to call him so will do so without asking me & leave him numerous voice mail messages (that he doesnt return)
I've called his work & 1 of his friends who have confirmed he is fine (I know nothing horrible has happened to him) have asked them to ask him to call me & he hasn't.
DD is experiencing a whole range of emotions from tears, confusion, and anger and I am struggling to find the right words to explain to her what is happening.
She loves our new house & all the time I now have for her. She is making new friends too, she just misses her dad.
What do I do? What do I say? I know he will stick his head up at some point.. what do I do when that happens?
Its not fair to make her grieve like this & then just reappear.. That said he has traveled alot throughout her life so its not like he was always around & has just vanished. Shes just not buying my explanations this time.
I've told her that mum & dad are going to live seperatly now, that we both love her very much, that she'll get to spend time at both of our houses & thats exciting because now she's one of those kids with two of everything! 2 houses, 2 beds, 2 families..
What more can I say to her?
What did you find helped your children understand your seperation?