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    What a gut-wrenching thing to happen, I'm so so sorry for your terrible loss. I've not lost someone that close before but have a close friend who experienced something very similar. She still beats herself up about it many years later. She said the guilt and pain and what if questions never really go away, but she has gotten better at coping with the suffering if that makes sense. And she says the "rawness" feeling also fades... Eventually. Be kind to yourself, it's still very very early days.

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    Honestly? No, it never goes away. But it does get easier to deal with (or maybe we just get better at dealing with it). I lost my mother figure when i was 13, and it still feels as raw as it did back then but over time i have gotten used to it and cope with it differently. I had a massive amout of guilt for thing i said and did before she passed, that i never got to amend. I found writing letters to her helped immensely. Sometimes they were just trivial stuff like what i did that day and other times they were a lot more emotional.

    Be gentle with yourself. Xxoo


 

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