Honestly i dont know that poster but everytime she posts its like a witchhunt! Someone is always picking her posts apart. Its like theres a cool club and uncool club on BH and heaven forbid someone with a different opinion opens their mouth. Seriously turns me off this forum. I know the poster may have made some posts which personally i dont agree with but i still believe the ongoing online targeted bullying is not on!
3 kids is awesome 😊 we were going to stop at 3 (now have 5), and they were 3 under 3 at one stage. I really didn't find it that much harder, but I think it's because I went into it not thinking about it. I just on and parented them and went on with life. Yes it was busy, but I found it way less overwhelming than having my first.
Id transfer and let fate decide
Ok look, I found the comment insensitive. It was poorly timed because this thread has been around for ages now and she posted that pretty much straight after Zombie. She makes a fair and valid point, the health and/or challenges of my current children definitely plays a part in any decision to have another, but you know, think about how you say stuff!
Lay off Zombie, she didn't say anything about it, it was all me.
I haven't even had my first yet and have the number 2 in my head as being ideal. I may end up in your position and question whether we could stretch for 3 because I'm already scared to actually have any babies because then it will be over. Sounds crazy right? I'm putting it off because I don't want to have the second baby and go right that's done now. Will that lead me to wanting another? Possibly! I would be weighing up finances, housing arrangements and the quality of life. Some people are great at balancing and juggling multiple kids but sometimes I doubt if I could. If I felt like DP and I could do it then we would go for number 3 and let fate decide if it was to be or not
DS1 has just turned 4 and DS2 turns 1 soon. I am finding it tough (DS1 in particular is draining my energy). I first thought I couldn't go through IVF again, but now realise I am not looking forward to going through the threenager stage a second time, nevermind a third. I'm sure you will make the best decision for your family.
One thing I would be concerned about is if the transfer didn't work, would your heart already be yearning for a third and would you need to stim again?
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