My DS5 is wanting to do sports on weekends (auskick). I have spoken to DS father about him wanting to do activities on weekends for a couple of years now, which has always ended in him saying "no, I won't take him during my weekend because it eats into our weekend", which the sport only goes for an hour at 9am.
I've suggested instead of having every 2nd weekend, to do every weekend but half the weekend so he can do his sports & see his dad as well (seeing as his father wont take him on his weekend), he says "no thats not enough time with him".
I then say "ok, do you want him for a few hours one night during the week for dinner as well as one night on the weekend each week?", he says "no, I work shift work so I can't, plus my parents dont want to drive after work" (he still doesn't drive and relies on his parents to get him to and from our place).
DS's father has straight out accuses me of using this as an excuse to have one last control over him, um no? it's so your son can have hobbies after school & on weekends! Sorry that you have to parent & do things for your son, other than watch tv all day and play ipad!
So, tell me how you and your ex works around weekly activities on weekends?
Am I being unreasonable to ask him to take an 2 hours out of his weekend MAX, which includes traffic to and from the activity as well as the hour long activity.
Do you think it's fair to compromise, switch things around, work something out for DS? (which I think I have offered a couple of options?).
Do you think DS should just miss out every second weekend on football to keep his dad happy & so they don't have to go anywhere?