Firstly, I am sorry to hear of your negative result. I think the donor cycle process is so much more stressful than a cycle using our own eggs, mainly because the costs and expectations are higher. You mentioned you have lots of frosties, which is great. Not everyone has this as a back up so that is a positive. Do you think you will return for a FET?
I returned from Hawaii a couple of weeks ago, and received a positive result. While it is early days, the initial beta was high, about three times as high as my best result using my own eggs. So I am hoping this is a sign of a quality egg/implant. I have a scan booked for the end of the week so then will know more. Mainly if there is still a baby (or two) growing in there. Having had seven miscarriages previously, I know I am not out of the woods yet!
I had a good experience using the the Hawaii clinic. I found Adrian to be very responsive to my many questions and she never seems to sleep! We did take some time selecting a donor as our initial favourites were not available. In the end we selected a 19 year unproven donor which was a risk for sure. DH really wanted a proven donor but I swayed him. Our donor did good, 20 follicles yielded 17 eggs of which 14 mature eggs. All fertilised and we ended up transferring two quality blasts and freezing five. Again, no proof yet of quality but I am really happy with the result.
Our experience going to Hawaii was good, also partly because we regularly holiday there, so we packaged it up as a holiday with an added benefit to take the pressure off. That way if it didn't work then we had a lovely holiday to fall back on. Let me know if there is anything else I can comment on about our experience!