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Thanks ladies! The ASOS one is lovely, must've missed that one!
So I've just spoken to a friend who apparently already asked about the dress code and it's all white, no prints or black/white... hmmm, I might just check myself to be sure
If there is no wriggle room on the dress code i wouldnt make an effort to go. IMO id rather my friends and family be there to celebrate my birthday then be stubborn on the dress code.
I was going to say speak to the host and explain honestly that you have nothing white and can't afford to buy something you'll never wear again. But since reading that your host is being demanding and only allowing white, I'd be saying I couldn't come. These type of parties where the host is high maintenance and expect guests to shell out for a theme and refuses to compromise annoy me to no end. I would tell her she's more than welcome to buy you something to wear
Apple iPhart6 (17-02-2015)
I'd just tell the truth as you've told us - I would be really disappointed if a friend had a theme that was so rigid as to make people too uncomfortable to come, seems a bit precious to me.
If she's really your mate, give her a call, tell her you'd love to come but all white means spending $$ and potentially feeling really uncomfortable.
Seems like a weird theme to me to be honest. As a previous poster said - what on earth are the blokes meant to do? I bet there will be other people who won't turn up in all white. Are people supposed to run out and buy white shoes too? Who even owns white formal shoes?
Traditional etiquette would say that telling guests what to wear is rude. Sure, hosts can indicate a level of formality such as "formal" or "lounge suit" but to demand a particular colour is rude.
E.g Guests are requested to wear formal white as opposed to "I'd love everyone to wear emerald green if you've got it".
Guests are not props in the theatre of life.
As a host, sure it might sound fun to have a particular theme but surely it's more important to share an event with the people you love and care about than only those who wear a particular colour?
I agree though about contacting the host.
But DONT explain why you won't be buying an outfit! How you choose to spend your money is no ones business!
You could just ask if the White thing was optional. If the host says it's not or begrudgingly accepts you wearing something else, I'd decline.
Op in all seriousness, you've said this isn't a close friend anymore, you'd prefer not to waste money on an outfit you're unlikely to wear again and white isn't your colour. You could just choose not to attend.
Considering you haven't even gotten to the gift portion of the program!
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