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    What about a tuxedo style outfit with a white jacket and cami and black pants/skirt? I've seen a lot on the red carpet of the award shows lately. Surely it doesn't have to be all white. I would definitely ask if she means all white or if some white is ok

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    If you don't want to go just politely decline the request. I think sometimes we create response scenarios in our heads that are way worse than what we think. Just a flat out No is fine. It's when you start adding an excuse people are suss on you. People really generally don't question flat out no. I guarantee if you say no nothing really dreadful can happen. Pus you hardly see her and you're not close. She can't do anything to you.

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    Hi OP
    I just looked through some nice white maxi dresses online, which are generally a comfortable fit and you could always wear a long flowing cardi over it.
    Also I keyed in "white maxi dresses plus size" into boohoo.com and found some affordable results you may be interested in

    (gah sorry I tried pasting the link but it didn't work.)
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    There is obviously a reason she's mentioned a specific dress theme/colour. I wouldn't want to wear a different colour and stick out like a sore thumb or make it look like I couldn't be bothered reading the invite properly.

    i would find something white and comfortable if you can't find something 'formal' I'd dress as close as I could while still wearing white and not blowing the budget on an outfit you'll obvious it only wear once.

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    Default Wwyd? Birthday invite with very specific dress code

    She obviously got some sort of theme for the party. Is it just white or is it black and white? If it's black and white then definitely wear a black dress with white accents. Otherwise there's almost certainly some cheap, nice options online as @~Marigold~ suggested.

    I think wearing colour you'll stand out and feel uncomfortable. I went to a black and white party the other day and forgot the theme so I was wearing red! To be fair it was a one year old's birthday so not as bad as a "grown up" party!

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    Thanks for all the replies! To answer some questions/ suggestions: she's already married so no chance of a surprise wedding; I'm overweight and short (lucky me) which makes finding clothes difficult, the maxi dresses suggested would have to be altered to fit, I try to stick to knee length but I haven't been able to find anything online.

    I love the black and white suggestion! That's right up my alley. How should I go about finding out if it would be ok? If I ask and she says no it'll be really obvious when I RSVP no won't it? I'd never dream of just ignoring the dress code and turning up, I'd stick out like a sore thumb. Ahhh so much over thinking and first world problems!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    Thanks for all the replies! To answer some questions/ suggestions: she's already married so no chance of a surprise wedding; I'm overweight and short (lucky me) which makes finding clothes difficult, the maxi dresses suggested would have to be altered to fit, I try to stick to knee length but I haven't been able to find anything online.

    I love the black and white suggestion! That's right up my alley. How should I go about finding out if it would be ok? If I ask and she says no it'll be really obvious when I RSVP no won't it? I'd never dream of just ignoring the dress code and turning up, I'd stick out like a sore thumb. Ahhh so much over thinking and first world problems!
    I would just msg her to find out and then if she says no it has to all be white and you can't find something msg her next week and say you had your dates mixed up and realised you already have something on that day. Then I would ask her for brunch or something instead to say sorry for missing the party.

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    Maybe just ring or text her & say you didn't want to put your foot in it, so thought you'd check with her to see if it's ok to wear a little bit of darker clothes with white pieces or if it's all white? Maybe mention you're wanting to check before buying things.

    Do you know anyone else going? You might be able to give them a ring & see if they're wearing all white or just some pieces.

    If she comes back & says all white, you can always let her know that something's come up at the last minute or you're not feeling well & can't make it.

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    Can you not just message or call her and explain the situation? Just something along the lines of, "I am really struggling to find anything white formal, is there any wriggle room on the dress code," if she says no then just say sorry I can't attend. If she is set on the dress code then it doesn't seem it would matter who came as long as they fit the dress code iykwim.

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    Also, have any of her other friends/family commented about the dress code on Facebook? You may be able to pick up off there what they're going to wear


 

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