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    @bbhope I'll PM you! But yes DS is four months old on Tuesday! How time flies. Same ss yours - giggling, laughing, holding, rolling!!! Sleeping through night yes 10-5 working on getting him to bed earlier slowly. It's a beautiful time and I am so grateful for the technology of IVF for giving us this baby (and the rest!) x

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    @Jenniwithanl: I wish mine is sleeping through the night. Perhaps he is but on the wrong time. 7 (or 8)pm to 2am.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jojo85 View Post
    @JimmyCricket
    sorry for your recent news. it is a very shocking thing to try to swallow. we found out my husband has zero sperm 3 months ago and im still trying to get my head around it. if you're in Sydney, try to get an appointment with dr Golovsky, apparently hes the best with this kind of stuff. we saw dr kim @ ivf aus, she was great too. hang in there, and like the rest have said there is light at the end of the tunnel. get all your results before anything else. there is still hope with high fsh etc, microtese will be the ultimate last resort that will give you closure. good luck with it all.

    thank you all you ladies for your support and info too!

    @Jenniwithanl
    i read above you went with family donor. we too are looking at dh brother for ds if dh doesn't have any after microtese. what is involved with family ds and is the process long? did you have it as backup? im with ivf Australia atm.
    Hi @Jojo85,

    The same process as IVF, the difference being that we provided a known donor to the IVF clinic. It was a lot of work though. First we had to discuss with counsellor our thoughts to use known, then propose the idea to the family member. Then get them to go to a GP to get a referral to undergo all the routine checks including sperm analysis (of which IVF take that sample to be used as the sperm donation and they do separate checks on it for 6 months to check for HIV), they have to also do police checks, HIV, hormone, chromosome and STD bloods etc. Once they came back then the donor had to meet fertility specialist to have a check up and once that is all confirmed as OK, then we as individuals go for counselling including if the donor has a wife/partner etc, and then all together at least twice before they finally give us the OK to proceed. There is no payment by the clinic to known, and we are expected to pay for all their medical bills. I made sure the donor claimed all the appropriate rebates and anything out of pocket we paid him. Cost about $1k all up out of pocket.

    On the day of the mtese, we had the donor sperm on standby. In our case, mtese didn't result in sperm so my DH was advised that afternoon by the lab and then he was the one to give permission to fertilise my eggs which had been retrieved earlier in the day with the sperm donor. The rest you know.

    Now that we have our boy - you would never know what we went through and he was created through a lot of love and a desire to have a family. We will of course tell him but in good time. Feel free to PM for more details.

    J

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    Default @Jenniwithanl

    Thank you so much for that info.

    we too are looking at dh brother as ds backup, but i dont think he will be willing though. its a hard question to ask someone.
    but i dont want to go through the ivf process and come home with nothing. ive pretty much accepted my dh has no sperm so i would rather have backup then wait 6 months.

    with regards telling your baby when he is older, is that something you want to do or by law you have to? sorry if it sounds like a stupid question.

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    @Jojo85

    We used annon DS and had it on back up for my DH's mtese. I agree with you... Doing a stim cycle for no reason is such a big ask - physically, mentally and financially. It just seems like a waste to not have backup.
    But at the same time, I appreciate that you need to be mentally ready to have DS on backup.

    Telling kids is a personal choice you make, and the kids can then chose to find out the identity when they are older (I think 18?). In regards to telling our kids about their conception, we have decided to let them know from the get go. After some research I found that kids who grew up knowing seem more adjusted and OK with it and kids that found out later on in life seem to have a harder time accepting it and have some identity issues. But that's just our opinion. It's a personal choice

    In NSW its compulsory to go through 2x counselling sessions when using DS. The counsellor should explain all the laws and regulations to you

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    @Jojo85: we didn't have a donor back up. We just weren't mentally prepared and DH wasnt keen at the time. Thus, we took it one step at a time. However, it took us even longer to come to term when there were sperms found, transferred and chemical pregnancies.

    As for telling the kid(s), it is a personal choice. We will down the track. They went through that at the counselling and that's recommended. The reason is mentioned above by @Barca07. You can also watch couple of interviews and abc series on donor conception. Then, you can see why telling your kid(s) from the start is advocated. Again, personal choice. A lot people are using anon donor that can't be identified oversea but it isn't allowed by laws in Austraila anymore as far as i know. That means child can choose to find out at the age of 18.

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    Are you cycling this month @Barca07?

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    Hi BBhope.

    I was planning on it. I'm physically ready but I've have a rough couple of days emotionally so second guessing If I'm mentally ready yet.
    Part of me thinks that I'm as ready as I'll ever be, and no matter how long I wait, it's always going to a tough to jump back it.

    As you can imagine, I'm incredibly anxious and nervous. I'm thinking of seeing the counsellor at IVFA to help me through my FET's and pregnancies.

    I'm CD7 today and have 5day embies so still have a couple of weeks to decide (my transfers so far have been unmedicated).
    First blood test tomorrow

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    @Barca07: PM you.

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    So, last night DH told his parents that his microTESE is booked for May and they lost the plot. His mother and father basically said that they think we haven't thought it through and that going through the surgery is not necessary and invasive and we should be looking at adoption. When I explained how difficult adoption is they basically called me a liar. Wow thanks mil fil. Basically I'm an evil witch of a wife who is dooming my husband to a survey that Either he won't survive or will incapacitate him. We weren't able to get a word in edgewise but they are grossly misinformed about the microTESE and didn't behave at all like parents should. I'm so upset


 

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