@MrsSIG: I am still catching up projects from the infertility mess! Not that I can catch up now. I felt the need to say something when we have the evaluation in the past two years. I didn't because it is such a privacy matter. DH doesn't even want friends to know. Let alone the boss. We work at the same place. infertility hurts the man ego if u know what I mean. More importantly, think about the future. I regret telling some of the friends because we r now using donor and you just can't keep some people mouth shut. Again, personal choice. We don't want anyone to see our child any different. I know some people are very open about all these.