2 days to FS appointment and I'm nervous and having trouble concentrating at work. I go through periods of having hope and other times I just cry and cry.
This all just sucks
That's me 3 yrs ago. I was pretty much crying all the time. My productivity at work went down hill from there. I was also depressed. Then, all my friends here got pregnant last year. I was just miserable. The only way I was able to get through was seeing a counsellor who specialised in infertility. Once you have a plan, hope will emerge. Hang in there.
@MrsSIG it takes awhile to not actually cry. I think it took me 6 months. In the beginning I cried alot. I still wonder why us and how it doesn't feel fair.
In the beginning it was really hard seeing pregnancy announcements etc on facebook. Now I can almost deal with them depending who the person will be. My best way to deal with it is not liking the photos unless they are family. My cousin is pregnant with her second I thought it was nice how she rang me and told me before she would allow her mum to tell anyone. I was still sad but I thought it was nice. I find the closer they are to you the harder it is.
It is tough in the beginning.. I couldn't even think about it without crying.
I found I went through the '7 stages of grieving'... Denial, anger, acceptance, etc.
It does get easier though. I started a journal, which really helped me
Thanks ladies. In the context of work, did anyone tell their managers somewhat about what is going on? I am tempted to just so that it explains why I'm basically in lala land sometimes. Im basically doing the bare minimum and not great quality work. Last financial year I was at the top of my team in terms of productivity and quality, this year I'll be lucky to make the bare minimum. I yhimk my manager should get an explanation as I don't want them to think I've purposely gotten lazy.. I don't know how she would react, she is usually quite lovely....
Oh and in terms of people falling pregnant, I know how u all feel. My sister, SIL, two cousins, friends and six colleagues all gave birth this year alone. Everyone is bugging me and my MIL has put the most amount of pressure. 😢
@MrsSIG I told my former manager just before the TESA and he was male and when I told him he looked like he was in pain from thinking about it lol. I haven't told my new manager I just plan to take a couple of weeks holidays when the time comes to mTESE.
Speaking of mTESE what kind of time is it to heal? I know people say 2 weeks but my husband has a physical kind of job where he stands alot and is going up and down the different floors at work and walking around to get things etc. Is 2 weeks enough or should he go 4 weeks? Or 3 weeks? He would rather too much than not enough as last time he felt bad having 2 weeks off when it was just suppose to be 4 days.
@Malak my dh took 3 weeks in total, he's job is very demanding walking a lot up and down stairs. The first 3-4 day where the worst and he was pretty much laid up in bed. After those days he just walk very slow and gingerly.
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