Thanks @Malak, @bbhope, I know from here on its going to be a tough journey.
I wanted to go straight for a mTESE because I don't want to put DH through two surgeries (plus twice the cost).. I still have no idea what caused his NOA. I keep begging him to ask my MIL if he had undescended testes but he doesn't want to tell anyone anything yet.
This is such a hard road, ppl are bugging us for babies and we ourselves love kids and have been planning them since day 1.
DH has said if it comes to it, he won't deny me children and I should leave him. What the??
As for donor sperm, I just really really hope it doesn't come to that.
If any sperm are found in DH, will they be suitable for fertilization ? Or do they have to be of a certain quality ?
Thanks so much for the support and answers