@ttc1981 I think it is just a male thing that they don't want to talk about. Probably because there is nothing that can be done to change it.
I was stressing too about being told old and now it is a matter of if it happens.
We have only told family the reason why. My plan is if we tell other people that we will probably just say that we can't have kids and for them to respect our privacy and leave it at that.
My mum actually thought the it was because of me when I told her because I have had 3 lletz surgeries. She was surprised when I told her it wasn't me. The nice thing my mum said though was that kids aren't everything and that they are expensive - a nice way of my mum to make it seem better