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    @ttc1981 I think it is just a male thing that they don't want to talk about. Probably because there is nothing that can be done to change it.

    I was stressing too about being told old and now it is a matter of if it happens.

    We have only told family the reason why. My plan is if we tell other people that we will probably just say that we can't have kids and for them to respect our privacy and leave it at that.

    My mum actually thought the it was because of me when I told her because I have had 3 lletz surgeries. She was surprised when I told her it wasn't me. The nice thing my mum said though was that kids aren't everything and that they are expensive - a nice way of my mum to make it seem better

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    @ttc1981: how did the appt go today?

    Yes, it is a male thing. DH doesn't want to talk to anyone about it. He doesn't even want to go to the counseling with me other than the official donor ones. Everyone is different. DH also doesn't want anyone to know. He said it is a private matter. I respect that and i feel bad enough for him. I told couple of close friends vaguely but they probably could guess. I wish i have never told any of them, though, because we are now using donor. Only one was rude enough to ask. Well, not directly but I was quite taken aback about the question. I literally didn't know what to say, although the answer sorta indicate that we use donor.

    I started to say to some friends, who i am not close with, that life isn't all about kids. That kinda shut them up.

    BTW, @Malak. I meant to ask you some questions privately. About feeling... I think I have gotten my head around it for now. I might ask again when i struggle with the questions again.

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    My doctor is fantastic and I am so much more at ease... Even my partner said he noticed a difference and was happy to talk about it and we have discussed the tests ahead of us and then we take it from there... Not thinking too far ahead at all... She has set up a plan of attack for him for tests and to have another SA and we are waiting for dr Artley in 2 months (though she did say to call and check what Dr Teoh specialities are) I think it might be good to just get our selves nice and healthy and 3 days after our appointment we have a holiday and then can start what the doctor says from there
    She had agreed if it's more involved we go interstate but she said lets just find out what it is first and then go from there
    Thanks for your info... We will probably get his SA done in s few weeks and then the other tests and then just wait it out. Really hope all goes smoothly for you guys... Where are at in your journey?

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    @ttc1981: that's right. BT and SA results are important before you think further more. It could easy be obstructive and you won't even have to think about those surgeries or donor. One step at a time. I think other than malak, whose DH is still waiting to do mTESE and new comers on this forum, the rest of us have all moved onto donor and waiting for bub arrival (if i remember correctly).

    @Charlie74: Yes, they don't like to freeze sperms if the number is low and quality isn't good. If they ever find sperms via surgery on azoo patient, it will be just enough for fertilization. That's why they always do the sperm extraction on the EPU day. Have the Dr recommended TESA? In your DH case, it is the varicoceles causing the problem. If they get the sperms directly from the testes, the quality of sperms might be better.

    As for donor, yes, you have to go through counseling. I thought about being selfish and the kid will hate me doing that. You know what?! People without fertility problem also have kids because they want them. Aren't they selfish too? We want kid(s) for the same reason. It is just unfortunate that we have to go through the hard journey to get there. We always hear more people complain than people who are happy on the web. The happy donor conceived children normally don't post their story. We were told that those curious donor conceived children struggle more if they can't find out the identity of their biological father/mother. That's why Australia has now leaning toward open identity anon donor -- ie, donor conceived child can contact the clinic and find out info once they turn 18. Remember, not all would be interested in finding out. I don't think any donor conceived children would want to live with a stranger bio dad if they are brought up in a loving family. If you know what i mean. If my parents told me that i was adopted, I won't care and they are still my mom and dad (despite my bad relationship with my parents atm).

    As for adoption, i can't help you with that. @Malak probably can say more. We didn't consider it because Australia is very difficult and going oversea is even harder with paperwork. We were willing to give my eggs a try. For your age, you might be eligible for donated embryo in australia. But I see that you struggle a lot with the donor idea at this point.

    I don't see having children as passing my gene. If anything, I struggle to come to term of not having DH gene because he has all the nice features, smart etc. Certainly, it isn't the main reason i married him. I see it as having a family, raising the kid(s) and enjoy the parenthood with him. That's the reason we both decided to use donor and believe nurture vs nature.
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    ps: @Charlie74: if you are worried about your age, go back and read this thread. Our long term warrior, @MGC Bertie, who i admire a lot, has made it happen just before she was planning to embark a DE + DS route in South Africa. Miracle does happen.

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    @Charlie74 I know how you are feeling. Sometimes I think the reason for us to have kids is because they will be part DH and me.

    DH doesn't want to do DS and I don't want to do adoption (he wants to do adoption). He would do DS with DE though. Originally I looked into it all and now haven't for a few months. I think in the back of mind I wonder if it is worth it and feel that the reason I want kids are so they are part of both of us.

    I am not sure if you would qualify for adoption or not as a friend of mine said that 40 is the cut off. Also you need to be married or de facto for 2 years and not seeking fertility treatment for a specific time. I think how long it takes varies. My FS (she is also an OBYGN) said she knows someone who adopted within 6 months. You can also try from overseas as that can be faster.

    If you want to talk feel free to PM me.

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    Adoption is under 45 and together for 3 years... I actually looked into it before we had this hiccup because I have always wanted to adopt! I think we will be looking into it when we get from holiday properly! I would prefer to give an unwanted child a home than do doner (my partner is happy for doner I am less) thought we aren't even at the second SA yet so early days... Plus the laws, rules and regulations have relaxed slightly so a lot quicker! So don't rule it out if you thought she was an issue

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    Does it differ from state to state for time together? Because when I briefly looked into it QLD was 2 years together (minimum). I never got to the age part but that is good news because I can tell a friend of mine whose co-worker is 40 and told her she was too old to adopt now.

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    Must do WA is 45... I think it's great to adopt but yeah lots of work to get there... Can you get access to donor eggs easily?

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    It is easy in Czech Republic which is same price as Australia for IVF plus flights but you treat it like a holiday


 

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