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    Default Smacking - would you have said something/ do you agree

    Yesterday at playgroup, a mums little boy who's almost 3 was acting up big time. He kept hurting other kids, like ramming a toy mower into them, snatching and then lightly hit a girl in the face for playing where he was and with the toys he was playing with and not sharing them.

    he started then hitting his mums face, not very hard. So the mum took the boy to the toilets and we could hear him crying quite hysterically and a few smacks maybe 3.

    the boy calmed very quickly and then went about playing and was good as gold after that played well and was interacting nicely with other kids.

    Everyone felt "weird". It's not the sort of thing done at playgroup, most kids are very good/compliant, I've never seen anyone smack.

    So what do you make of this situation??

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    She would have been better off taking him home. After that behavior there would be no more playing today at playgroup.

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    I don't know, it seemed effective?

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    I would have felt uncomfortable, but wouldnt have said anything. I dont feel i have the right to comment to another parent on their (legal, safe) choices. At our playgroup, we dont tell each other how to parent - we accept each other for all our differences. I would think if someone did comment, it would alienate her when she was probably already feeling embarrassed about her sons behaviour.

    On a side note, i never got the 'go home if my child is misbehaving' thing. My child hasnt behaved like that befoee, but if she did, i would have done time out. It takes us so long to get ready in the morning, and playgroup is my social time as well as my childs. I try to teach them how they must behave appropriately in different environments, not just go home if theyre being difficult (not picking on you, op, just something i see said on here a lot).

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    I don't believe smacking is the most effective discipline and I don't smack but it's her child and smacking isn't against the law so, no, I would not have said anything unless I felt it was more abuse than a smack. I'm glad to hear she did not smack him in full sight of the others though.

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    Time out for my kids would have done diddly squat if they were at that stage.

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    I may have taken DS home too if he was really out of control but I would try a "time with me" first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterFarts View Post
    Time out for my kids would have done diddly squat if they were at that stage.
    I was just thinking, a lot of people would disagree with my use of time out for my children, and i would be really annoyed if i did use a time out and other playgroup mums felt the need to comment on my parenting. Just goes to show how we all do things differently, and thats ok.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterFarts View Post
    She would have been better off taking him home. After that behavior there would be no more playing today at playgroup.
    Yep, I would have done this. It would be embarrassing enough for the mother, then have people 'questioning' what happened in the toilets. I don't smack, but everyone has right to parent how it suits them and their child.

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    Default Smacking - would you have said something/ do you agree

    I wouldn't have thought twice. TBH, id have been impressed that she actually did something about.
    I find these days too many parents let there kids do that sort of behaviour and don't reprimand them for it at all.
    I believe everyone has the right to discipline their own child (assuming there is no excessive force).
    While I'm no expert on the matter as DD is yet to reach a very naughty phase my parents smacked my brothers and I when we needed it and we all turned out ok.

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