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    Not DV yet as such and he's lucky enough not to even know what that is , he definitely knows we don't hit people or animals and I'm lucky he's a pretty gentle, easy going 4 year old but what age do we start talking about it?

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    Apple I had that discussion already with ds1. Also no is no this second. Even in the middle of the act.
    I also talk to regularly about how much stronger he is than a most women.

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    Dd's only 2. So far we talk about things like how someone gets to decide what happens to their own body, and how it's not okay to hurt someone. DP and I do talk about things like domestic violence, sexual assault, consent etc. in front of her though. I think it's important that these topics be discussed openly and honestly with and around kids.

    For those reading along and thinking about this topic, here's my big thought. Impress upon your kids the importance of consent/bodily autonomy/ALWAYS respecting someone else's choices even if you don't agree. I work with kids who have been abused and neglected, and it's so critically important that kids grow up knowing that they have control over their own choices, and that it's never EVER okay to manipulate others for your own purpose.

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    I role model good behaviours with ds, praise him for being kind to his little sister and I remind her not to hit her older brother either. I recently watched this with ds too and we had a little chat about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2OcKQ_mbiQ I feel that's enough at his age

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    I role model good behaviours with ds, praise him for being kind to his little sister and I remind her not to hit her older brother either. I recently watched this with ds too and we had a little chat about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2OcKQ_mbiQ I feel that's enough at his age
    That brought tears to my eyes.

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    It is not a conversation I have explicitly had at this stage (they are 4 and 2), but we model non violent behavior and have an absolute rule about never laying your hands on anyone in frustration or anger (loving touch that is invited only). I hope that as they grow there will be opportunities to expand on that to more explicit conversations.

    I have the book `Everyone has a bottom' and we frequently say `From our head to our toes we say what goes' as a reminder that we are in charge of our own bodies.

    I'm thinking of showing them Twilight when they are 12 or so to show exactly what a dating relationship should not be like!

    Bhbhbh...how old is your child you showed that clip to?

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    That video brought tears to my eyes as well! Damn soppy music and cute kids with accents

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    Quote Originally Posted by NoteToSelf View Post

    Bhbhbh...how old is your child you showed that clip to?
    He is 7.5 yo.

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    Cheers, I will wait a few years

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    Cheers, I will wait a few years
    I didn't want the meaning to get lost on him if I had to read the subtitles.

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