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    Default School drop off / meeting other parents

    So my son just started grade 1. Last year I was lazy and didn't pro actively go out and meet other mum's. The school drop off is so daunting. It's so groupie - you have the gym mums, the working mum, the school mums, the granny's and the single dad's who stand there looking lost. I am not sure the group I fit into.. So I just dropped and ran..haha! I go to the gym but I also work part time.!! I never thought it would be like this! Most of the parents in my son's class are much older then me. I try to engage in conversations with them but I just feel so young. (im 30) It seems to be a school that attracts older parents. Does anyone else find this?

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    At my kids old school, it was awesome. It was a total community. Everyone knew each other and everyone was inclusive. The kids would all play after school and kick footies and the parents would all catch up. The rule was that all junior primary kids had to be collected from teachers or osch.

    The kids new school is different with the clicky parents. There is drop and go areas and the parents that go to the classrooms are the groupy types. It is more the long term sahm who have nothing more to do having a gossip fest over the working parents and how they feel sorry for those kids. I don't pay attention when i make it to drop offs and pick ups. I don't need to get to know those types. That is what books and headphones are for.

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    hahaha.. great head phone idea.

    But don't you feel the need to make an effort to meet them? I get the guilts

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    Yep, definitely feel that way. I don't even bother trying to fit in or engage in conversations. School mums are generally very cliquey anyway, I'm sure I'd only be ostracised further if I did.
    I don't even enter the school grounds to drop off/pick up my eldest and my youngest is in the support unit at another school and there aren't really many other parents that pick their kids up from there so there is no awkwardness to deal with.

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    I feel that way already in the Pre-school I started with DS1 this year. I was really forward and shook peoples hands and introduced myself.
    I have however been invited to their online page on facebook. I have heard some school classes do the same thing to be informed. Maybe another way to get to know you fellow parentals?

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    I have made a few school mum friends, I must be lucky in that they don't seem cliquey at my sons school. We even have some awesome school dads that ive become good friends with.

    I think a lot of the time we perhaps talk ourselves into thinking people are a certain way, when really if you approach them, they're likely to be kind and polite and inclusive.

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    All my school mum friends have left the school. One went beginning of last year and 2 went beginning of this year. I dont do school run often these days but when i do, i get kiddo to meet me elsewhere so i steer clear of all the groups.

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    I'm interested in this whole 'school mum scene'. It sounds daunting and complicated!

    I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but I don't feel like I'll ever be one of those typical 'mums'. I'm not a 'mum' mum. I'm very dedicated to my DS, but as for being involved with lots of other mums and having mummy friends, it's never happened for me. I guess working full time hasn't helped. Even still, I don't think I'm naturally suited to being a social mummy.

    I'll probably be the mum who won't have any school mum pals, simply because I don't put myself out there. I'd rather keep to myself than feel rejected or try too hard to fit in. We'll see.

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    My DD1 started at a brand new school this year (just opened) i quite enjoy dropping her off and getting to meet other parents.
    There no cliques going on yet as its only in its second week so everyone is being friendly - i hope it stays that way

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    Quote Originally Posted by [Mod] Degrassi View Post
    I'm interested in this whole 'school mum scene'. It sounds daunting and complicated!

    I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but I don't feel like I'll ever be one of those typical 'mums'. I'm not a 'mum' mum. I'm very dedicated to my DS, but as for being involved with lots of other mums and having mummy friends, it's never happened for me. I guess working full time hasn't helped. Even still, I don't think I'm naturally suited to being a social mummy.

    I'll probably be the mum who won't have any school mum pals, simply because I don't put myself out there. I'd rather keep to myself than feel rejected or try too hard to fit in. We'll see.
    This is me too - I've tried to fit it but I just don't. I've tried many different ways to approach people and yet still I stand there on my own morning and afternoon. I just don't have the strength for the effort that I seem to have to put in - it shouldn't be that hard.

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