I'm a first time mum with DD who is 4 days old so will keep my post brief.
My birth experience was amazing from my perspective.
Was under the care of a birth centre but when we arrived at the hospital we had to go to the delivery suite...we had hoped to do a water birth but I wasn't too fussed just happy to be at a hospital. I ended up being raced back to the birth centre in a wheel chair shortly after transition to have a water birth ... Then contractions slowed and had to go back to the delivery suite ... Made me walk, before DD was then born. Needless to say the back and forth between birth centre and delivery suite was not ideal. Both DH and the birth centre midwives were not too happy about that.
There were also a couple of other things during birth that upset DH:
1. Lack of professionalism of delivery suite midwives compared to birth centre midwives
2. I had 4th deg tear and while I was in surgery DH overheard delivery suite nurses say:
MW1 "where is X's baby?"
mW2 "I don't know...it's the birth centre's problem not ours"
Anyway, DH was very upset by lack of help during my labour too.
So what I wanted to know was how did your DH cope with your labour?
Afterwards did you have the same feelings about the experience?
What strategies have you used to help DH come to terms with the experience?
For me, DH was fanatic during labour, coached me on when to push and to breathe and looking at the business end of things without fear! Yet now he seems to be a little depressed about the experience even though I thought it was fantastic!