At some of dss parties there were siblings that showed up (once at a fun park the other time at mcdonalds) the parents didn't tell me beforehand but I didn't mind, the parents were more than happy to pay for their own child and didn't expect cake or a lollie bag for the extra children, I always offered cake and a lollie bag if I had enough.
I once had a parent turn up to maccas party with her 4 kids (only 1 invited) and she took off leaving me with all 4 kids the youngest one still in nappies. She rocked up 3 hours later. It has been the one and only time siblings have ever been a problem. In the combined 63 kids parties.
Oh man, I am just starting to enter the age group for kids parties. I can't believe some parents bring siblings unannounced and expect them to be paid/catered for! So rude!
I don't have easy access to babysitters, we don't have family close enough to just pop in to babysit for a couple of hours. I wouldn't expect a parent to cater for my other child just because my circumstances make it a little tricky at times. It's impossible to factor in everyone's personal situations.
If DD got invited to a party and DH was away or working, and I wasn't allowed to take DS, we just wouldn't go. No hard feelings, no issues, DD will learn that you can't always go to everything and it's ok to miss out sometimes. When I host parties I will probably say that parents are welcome and to let me know if they need to bring siblings, similar to how Elijah's Mum does it. When the kids get to the age where parents don't need to stick around I'll probably expect that siblings don't come.
However, I think if you notify the host that you need to bring them, and you don't expect them to cater for them and they aren't out of pocket in any way, I don't see the big deal.
I guess I'm just thankful that, in my area, being accommodating of siblings is the norm.
Depending on the party, I do drop and run, or I stay until the siblings get too much then we go for a walk or window shopping etc, or if I can keep them out of the party then I'll stay, and if it's a really casual party then very rarely we will stay even if they're getting involved.
It's not that hard really.
I've had siblings who weren't on the invite come to my kids party. I really don't mind if siblings come but I'd appreciate the parent letting me know before the party so that I can include them. DD is having a big party this year and I'll be asking on the invitation to be advised if siblings are coming.
Most parents still stay at my kids parties which is fine with me. DS1 is ten this year so I'd imagine from here on in, some parents will drop and go at parties.
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