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    Default Birthday party etiquette

    I am throwing a birthday party for my niece who is in Grade 2 this year. Do I include a note in the invitation to say parents are welcome to stay? It this the norm? Do you also ask if they are bringing other kids for goodie bags catering etc when they RSVP?
    The birthday parties I have had for my four year old have always been with family and friends, this one will be mainly her school class mates so I am not sure what happens.

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    Depends on the party. But yes we ask for confirmation of who is staying with RSVP, and "please no siblings".

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Depends on the party. But yes we ask for confirmation of who is staying with RSVP, and "please no siblings".
    This is what I have done as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Depends on the party. But yes we ask for confirmation of who is staying with RSVP, and "please no siblings".
    Sounds pretty reasonable and something I would do.

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    Traditional etiquette would say it's rude for parents to bring other children if the invitation was for one specific child.
    Some are more flexible than that so I think it's completely up to you how you choose to approach it. It's a lovely gesture if you're welcoming the invited guest's siblings but not necessary!

    With regards to parents staying, I'm not sure what the standard is these days but you could always offer if you like

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    We just had a school friends party and here it is the norm that most parents would stay (kids are year 1) with kids that age, which most did. Parents seem to use it as a bit of a social get together to get to know other parents of kids theirs hang out with too. Some siblings (younger only) came but most parents checked that was ok first but siblings weren't provided with a goody bag. I just assumed they would stay and catered (nibbles) for them also. So it was quite a large gathering.
    I stay when my child is invited but then my child is clingy and usually wouldn't let me leave even if I wanted to.
    If a parent knows you or not would also depend on whether they want to stay.

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    All the invites ds get say 'drop n go party'. No one I know would bring uninvited siblings. Do people really do that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    All the invites ds get say 'drop n go party'. No one I know would bring uninvited siblings. Do people really do that?
    Yes. We invited DSS's class to a play centre for his 5th birthday, and there were 50 kids... 30 were invited, so the other 20 were siblings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Yes. We invited DSS's class to a play centre for his 5th birthday, and there were 50 kids... 30 were invited, so the other 20 were siblings.
    That is so rude, expecting the birthday child's parents to pay (I hope you didn't) for your uninvited child. Hope these parents paid for the siblings.
    Last edited by New Hope; 25-01-2015 at 21:56.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Yes. We invited DSS's class to a play centre for his 5th birthday, and there were 50 kids... 30 were invited, so the other 20 were siblings.
    Did the parents have the siblings with the party group? If so, wtf? I hope you didn't have to pay for them!


 

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