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    Default Autism or just slow development??

    Hi all, I don't even know where to begin here.... I think my son may be on the autism spectrum. On the mild end. But I don't know for sure. For a long time I though he wasn't, maybe I just wished he wasn't. He has signs that point to it. We have seen a paediatrician and she has referred us to a psychologist and an occupational therapist but it's another month before we see anyone again. We see a speech therapist once a month and have done for the last 6 months.

    DS is 3. He doesn't talk much, he is starting to say a lot more and is starting to put 2 or 3 words together.

    It is hard to keep his attention and if he is doing something he ignores everything else going on and will not respond to his name.

    He plays on his own a lot, we have 2 other children. 2 year old twins. He has been starting to play with them more but only in very small amounts until they don't do what he wants them to or wrecks what he is doing.

    He doesn't listen but isn't that sort of normal for most 3 year old. Don't they all think everything is all about them.

    He never stops, until he drops. He is constantly moving, he can't sit still for very long and when he does he seems to stare off into space.

    He doesn't eat very much and I am worried about that. He would live on cookies if I let him.

    But he is very affectionate, he can do things you ask him to just chooses not to most of the time. And he does point to things he wants.

    For people who have children that have been diagnosed with mild autism what were your signs? How do you get them to listen or even just focus on what you are saying? How did you go with potty training? How did they go at kinder? DS starts in a few weeks and I am so nervous about it.

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    I don't have experience but it sounds like you're doing a great job, maybe he hasn't played with the twins because they were previously too young and he was the 3rd wheel

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    I do not have children with autism but I am currently doing a masters in special needs. Just wondering if you have had his hearing tested as that could account for most of those problems?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fi2209 View Post
    I do not have children with autism but I am currently doing a masters in special needs. Just wondering if you have had his hearing tested as that could account for most of those problems?
    Yes we have had his hearing tested and it was all fine. I knew it was fine before that though because he could hear me opening a chocolate wrapper in another room haha

    I was concerned about it for a while because when he does talk it is not clear when it was more babble it sounded like when a deaf person talks ( if that makes any sense and for lack of a better way of explaining it) his words are starting to sound like words but are still not clear and it takes me a little while to understand what he I saying sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    I don't have experience but it sounds like you're doing a great job, maybe he hasn't played with the twins because they were previously too young and he was the 3rd wheel
    I did wonder if it was just that we had them so close together and it was overwhelming for him, I once read about someone's child stopped developing when they had their second so close to the first and I have been hoping that that was the case for DS. But it still worries me. I don't really feel like I am doing a god job. He can be full on and it's hard work when we go to someone else's house or out because he can't sit at a table in a restaurant for to long and he wants to touch everything.

    It was hard at my mothers group because he would be the only one exploring everything while all
    The other kids were just sitting around being calm, he was the first to do everything in my mothers group, roll, sit, crawl, stand, walk, get teeth, everything but talking. I remember one mother saying about him doing everything first and sounding disappointed, I said to her that they all develop differently he might be the last to talk, I almost feel like I made it happen. (I know that stupid).

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    Well from what you said those things could be signs of autism but there are other development issues that it also may be. Specialists and even kindy teachers may be able to give you some more insight. As for getting him to listen to what you are saying it might be useful to get some visual images for things you say regularly e.g. Dinner time, time to sit on the potty etc - we get a lot of parents who have these on a key chain in there pocket - you could make your own or there are heaps online. If he does have autism he should respond far better to visual cues than oral instructions. With toilet training he may respond well to a reward chart e.g. A sticker for each time he sits on the potty and 5 stickers means a reward. I hope that helps

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    I wish I had videoed him more when he was younger because I don't remember him always being like this. When it was just him we went out all the time, my mum worked from home and when we visited her she had clients and he would put all the charm on and look at them and smile and wave, at his first birthday a friend said to me she noticed that he looked everyone in the eye, be he doesn't do that now, now it is a struggle to get any eye contact for most people.

    For a long long time when he was a baby every time my dad and sister would visit he would scream and cry until they left, one day it all stopped but I don't really have a reason for it stopping.

    I never had a problem with him not talking much in the start because he had said a few words and DH and I are not big talkers, and DH apparently said no words at all until he was 2. I started to become concerned when the twins started talking, they talk so much more than him now, their words are clear and they can have conversations with you. This worries me to because people tent to spend time with them because of that and DS1 gets left to his own devices, I try to include him but he just plays on his own then or just gives me a cuddle and then goes and plays with something else.

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    All I can say is if you are worried go see a PaeD and get to the bottom of it.

    I think it maybe more a delay then anything, since he can string words together, and even knows words. My boys are both diagnosed with Autism, DS1 didn't talk until well over 3, and DS2 doesn't speak or acknowledge anyone other then myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fi2209 View Post
    Well from what you said those things could be signs of autism but there are other development issues that it also may be. Specialists and even kindy teachers may be able to give you some more insight. As for getting him to listen to what you are saying it might be useful to get some visual images for things you say regularly e.g. Dinner time, time to sit on the potty etc - we get a lot of parents who have these on a key chain in there pocket - you could make your own or there are heaps online. If he does have autism he should respond far better to visual cues than oral instructions. With toilet training he may respond well to a reward chart e.g. A sticker for each time he sits on the potty and 5 stickers means a reward. I hope that helps
    I like the key chain idea, I am going to do that thanks. (Would probably be better to see if the pictures work first though) however having said that he does listen sometimes. When he is listening he can take direction and he can do two things of the direction like umm grab your drink and turn off the light. Sometimes it takes a long time to get him to do it other times he can do it straight away.

    We have been potty training and so far he knows he has to go and if he is not wearing jocks then we have no accidents because he sits himself on the potty but he hasn't worked out the pulling the jocks down. Or up he can walk around with them down around his ankles for ages before pulling them up.

    I am going to look for some pictures and see if that works thanks 👍

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    Quote Originally Posted by White Mage View Post
    All I can say is if you are worried go see a PaeD and get to the bottom of it.

    I think it maybe more a delay then anything, since he can string words together, and even knows words. My boys are both diagnosed with Autism, DS1 didn't talk until well over 3, and DS2 doesn't speak or acknowledge anyone other then myself.
    We have seen a paed, it just feels like it's a really long process, she referred us to a psychologist and occupational therapist but it's still another month before we see them. He will have been at kinder for a few weeks before we see them.

    I have total respect for you! Some days it's hard to understand DS and it's frustrating for both of us. You have all my respect.
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