Hi @heartstringz, I just want to say that I think you are doing really really well.
However, you need to make a decision- is rocking your baby to sleep something you are going to do when it gets tough? Or is it going to stop?
I have a feeling your baby is picking up on your uncertainty. He WANTS you to rock him to sleep, so he needs to make you want that too.
If you really believe that rocking him to sleep is not sustainable. Then that is that. NO MORE ROCKING. Tell yourself that before nap/bed times every day. Say it to baby.
Is it possible to use a transition method? Do the settling thing sleep school taught you, and sit in the room. Wait until he is asleep and leave. Do this for a week or so. Then change to waiting by the door until he sleeps. Then waiting outside the door (where he can still here you say shush). Then leave the room.
Also, I suggest setting up a nanny cam or similar in baby's room. That way your husband can see what you are doing, and you can see what he is doing. Chances are you are both doing something slightly different, and whatever it is work for baby with your husband. It's easy to miss things or do things the way you have interpreted rather than what you were told, especially in the midst of screaming.
Last edited by DT75; 28-01-2015 at 11:33. Reason: spelling
Edit my dd stole my phone... Sorry
Thanks ladies & thank-you peanutmonkey for the offer! I will let you know if I need you
I am seeing a psychologist who does saturday appointments & dh
has been upfront with his boss about what is happening so he can probably take time off if need be.
Ill talk to dh tonight about the psychiatrist & meds
He settled himself & had a 2 hr sleep this morning but now hes been screaming ever since I started trying for this sleep 30 mins ago. Nothing has changed. I was calm (getting stressed now but not at first) & its just not working. I dont understand what im doing wrong
I dont drive & I havent managed to figure out how to get him to sleep in the pram, never really has - wants to look around at everything & as soon as I cover the pram with a muslin he starts SCREAMING & wont stop until I uncover it
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