Stick it out and keep doing exactly what you did at sleep school. He will learn that this is how it is going to be now. It may take a week or so but he will. I really think the main thing is you need to stay calm. As PP said use deep breathing etc to stay in control. You know what you are doing, you know it works and he can do it, and it is the right thing for both of you so make sure when you do go into him that you are relaxed, he will sense it and relax too. We are all here to support you.
He WILL NOT go to sleep this morning. Ready to just go back to rocking him to sleep as nothing else seems to work. He settles for dh & not for me
Do you have one of your dh's worn shirts that you haven't washed yet and can pop on?
It could be he can smell you and know you have milk? (Sorry, I'm trying to remember and think that you bf?)
Ill try to find one of dh's shirts & see if it works
Keep going, you can do this!!!! We are all behind you. Remember your consistency, it is the key to it all. He needs to know that you won't give in and start rocking him. I remember going through this with our son, he wouldn't settle for dh for a period, because he was just too soft and would give in. He started to do what I did and kept going, now ds will settle like a dream for both of us x
Its not working. Every sleep today took over 2 hours - an hour of screaming & me going in constantly to pat & shush & him starting screaming again the second I got to the door. So then I got him up & he spent 45 mins rubbing his eyes & getting really cranky then another 15 mins of screaming before he finally went to sleep.
Then he wouldnt go down at all this evening. I had to leave him to scream so I could go down the other end of the house & scream myself cause I was so close to snapping. He finally went to sleep when dh got home.
So I don't really see the point of continuing with this, its not working
hun I don't know what else to suggest that hasn't been suggested before. I remember being at that stage with my ds and one day when I absolutely snapped I just left him there to cry.(as mean as it sounds). those few days were awful but he soon knew I wasn't going to continue the same routine anymore, I just couldn't. I found he would play up or get worse every time I came in. My anxiety was sky high and I think he knew it.
have you tried a mobile with lights?
If you want to continue trying this, you have the whole of BH behind you for support, which is great.
BUT, I just want to play devil's advocate, and say that self-settling/CC/whatever it is, just simply does NOT work for every baby!
However, if you decide to start rocking him, you have to be happy and accept that that is what you are going to do until further notice.
I know you have a sore neck. I know you have anxiety. We all have issues of some kind that influence our parenting decisions. But you can't go on like this. I think you have to either boldly decide that CC is going to work for you, or, that you calmly accept to rock him. You need to make a decision. Once you make a decision I think you will be a lot calmer.
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I think he might be picking up on your stress, honestly. Just take a step back, a deep breathe and try again if you can. He did it at sleep school, he can do it at home and so can you.
Hugs, you can do it!
If you want to rock him that's okay but it didn't seem to be any easier for you.
Last edited by DreamyMummy; 27-01-2015 at 20:26.
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