I know everyone is waiting for an update so I thought id post here
Just got home from a week at sleep school. Honestly it was one of the hardest things ive ever done. When you first get there its really overwhelming. The evenings are the worst as you can hear babies crying everywhere you go.
The first couple of days involved ds crying quite a lot but he was never left alone to get upset - they taught us to listen & tell the difference between when he is just winging or protesting & when he was actually upset. Once he got upset I went in & shushed patted till he was calm & left the room again. I needed to pick him up a couple of times in the first couple of days as he wasnt calming but by wednesday he no longer needed this. He mostly slept for at least an hour for every day sleep there. He also started sleeping through the night!
Yesterday he self settled in the cot a couple of times after only 5 mins of babbling/winging & no assistance required from me. We couldnt get him down for the afternoon sleep yesterday but he settled pretty well for the evening sleep after that.
He self settled himself for his first sleep at home today after approx 10 mins of babbling, winging. No crying!
This is a baby who up until this week had needed to be rocked to sleep, had never self settled in his cot (had just been transferred there once he was asleep) & was a catnapper!
Its an amazing difference after only a week, hopefully we can maintain it now we are home.