I'm a member of bubhub already but posting incognito for this one.
My friend and her husband are thinking about whether he should donate sperm to a lesbian couple they are good friends with, who are in a long term relationship and want to have kids (plural).
They have a child themselves but may want more in future and are wondering about what the pros and cons are of being a known sperm donor.
I'd be interested to hear from any Bubhubbers whose husbands have donated sperm as a known donor - what sort of issues/feelings did you encounter?
If it was your husband and friends - WWYD? Would you feel ok about your husband fathering someone else's baby if you weren't done having your own?
Also keen to hear from any lesbian couples, how has knowing the donor affected the whole arrangement? How did you decide how you would handle any complications?
How have wives of donors felt about their husband fathering another couples babies?
Is non-IUI donating (the old turkey baster method) effective at all? As an IVF'er myself I don't think IUI is particularly successful at the best of times so I can't see how turkey basting could be very effective but maybe I'm just seeing things from the perspective of an IVF'er.
Things I worry about for my friend are:
- will she feel jealous?
- will she have to put off trying for #2?
- what if the couple miscarry or the baby isn't well - how will they feel?
Looking forward to your replies!!!