So DS has been toilet training for a few months now and we are at the stage where when we're out and about he is great. He asked to go to he toilet, have only had one accident while out. He is good at daycare but they said he never 'tells them' they ask and he happily goes. But at home he is a shocker! He just poo's and wee's in his undies, and isn't phased if I try to bribe him with rewards unless its bed time, and then he will use the toilet then demand his lolly pop!
This has been a massive power game with him... he is now yelling at me when i ask him if he needs to to go the toilet and fights me if i try to take him by the hand. I do this after seeing him show signs he needs to go ... but ill leave him be when he fights me, but then within a few mins ill see he has wet his pants.
He even has taken off his pants and deliberately weed on the carpet!
He then apologises to me later on for it... Like hours later he'll come over to me out of the blue and will apologise for weeing and pooing in his pants so it seems he feels guilty about it when he thinks about it... but then the need for control and dominance will take over him next time and its the same crap. (pardon the pun)
I finally had enough and the other day put him back in nappies and decided ill try again in a couple months as he is clearly not ready.
So this morning he runs into my room to wake me and tell me he needs to wee. He had taken his nappy off, he went into our toilet, lifted up the toilet seat stood on his tippy toes and weed standing up!
I was so happy i told hi how awesome it was that he did that and gave him a little reward (a smartie) I asked him if he wants to be in undies or nappies and he said undies... but then for the rest of the day he went straight back to pooing and weeing in his undies, fighting me when i ask him to go to the toilet after i see him showing signs.
Help me!! What am i doing wrong I am at my wits end he is truly messing with me. Is this normal behavior?? I know he knows better but is blatantly refusing to do it unless its completely on his terms.