So am just about at the end of my patience span - with my parents, without having to go totally nutso and flip out at them. To clarify we currently live with my parents, however we have recently got our own place and are moving out in the next couple of weeks.
The problem is with my father who has begun to become too 'involved' in my relationship with my baby son. The last straw for me was what happened today. My baby son was crying quite a bit as I had tried to settle him down in his cot to sleep. After 10 minutes with my sitting by his cot and reading him a story and passing the dummy back and forth, I had realised he was not calming down. As I went from the room to washup some extra bottles behind my back in trots my father. Without my consent he suddenly picks up my screaming son - who begins to scream ever the more, while telling me off about looking after my own son. Meanwhile he adds 0 effort to the actual daily care: feeding, changing washing, cleaning and buying of the million baby items which I have purchased.
After finishing washing up I begin to tell him to please put down my son and move out of the way as he was just getting in my way of the steriliser and kettle which I had to use. Making matters worse he begins to ask me if there was something wrong with my baby. Or if he was dirty (I had just changed him twice in the past 2 hours). BTW- He is also double the size for his own age and the nurses frequently joke with me about him being a little on the chubby side.
This has not been the first time he has said and done this either. Times when I have left the baby in the cot to shower and get dressed and go to the toilet he seems to begin this routine of blaming me when he starts to cry as I leave the room (for no more than 15 minutes). Telling me I should 'take care of my own child'. However I barely have time to go to the bathroom some days!
As we are moving soon some days I feel like leaving without anymore contact EVER! How should I approch this problem mummies? Have you had similar stories with overly smothering parents who want to take over the parent role in your baby's life?