My 19 month year old DSD was visiting the other day and we had an unusual experience. She went down for a nap but woke up 20 minutes later crying and tugging at her nappy, which we've never seen her do before. My DP figured she needed changing and pulled her nappy off, which was a little wet, and she stopped crying. He tried to put another one back on but as soon as he even touched it she started crying. She was standing up on the table crying and playing with herself quite rigorously to the point we were worried she would hurt herself. She point blank refused to have her nappy put back on and this continued for about 10 minutes, until she suddenly peed on the change table with a concentrated look on her face. She was immediately happy and when I grabbed wipes she took some from me and started wiping herself!
My DP asked her mum if she had started toilet training, as we thought maybe they had started and she was crying because we didn't know that she had wanted to use the potty. She quite angrily said they hadn't and she wouldn't start until she was at least 2 because the maternal health nurse told her it would be too stressful for her otherwise.
Would this behavior be a sign of DSD being ready for toilet training? We've never seen anything like it before. She has been helping pull her pants up and stuff for quite awhile too, and tries to barge in the toilet if one of us is using it (kinda embarassing/funny if we have guests haha). In the last month we taught her to wash her hands all by herself, even pushing the step stool into place and everything.
DP spoke to his psychologist and she said it would be good for us to start toilet training, that she will learn just to do it at our house and then when her mother goes to start it will actually be easier on her. It wouldn't be a huge stretch for us anyway with washing accidents as she's already in cloth. I just wanted to get some more opinions about whether her behavior means she's really ready? We don't want to push her too early, but we also want to listen if she's trying to tell us she's ready for this new skill.
Sorry for long post, thanks for reading