Im in need of some advice as to what grandparents visitation rights are.
To cut a long story short my mil is a narscissitic personality.
Her and fil have never thought much of me but we have stayed civil over the past 8 years.
Dh also has nothing to do with his brother due to his sil being vile to me since we got together.
Even after years of emotional heartache i stuck out the relationship with inlaws for my dh. Now, mil cannot stand that we stand our ground and wont allow bil and sil to treat us the way they do. She has constantly tried to manipulate the situation and taken sides to suit her and fil.
I have a dd 2 yrs old and a 8 wk old ds. Dh has made it perfectly clear that ,il is to butt out and not speak about bil to our dd, she is our child and when the time comes we will be dealing with it.
They dont have much to do with dd unless we really need a hand and ask them to help us out. But a couple of months ago mil admits to me that she tells my dd about bil and his kids. This woman is wrong on so many levels but i let it go.
Christmas day comes and we agree to go to our first family christmas and stay civil with bil and his family as we would never cause a scene. If anything they would as they have no shame in hurting anyone publicly or not.
As soon as i get there mil plays doting grandma and takes my dd off me and says "im going to introduce dd to the kids" I grabbed her back and said "no, we will do it in our own time thanks"... for the rest of the day i was ignored, copped death stares etc. i told dh but we agreed to stay and ignore mil.
On boxing day dh msgs mil tellin her to please stop trying to push the situation and stop telling our dd things.
Well we didnt hear from mil til a couple of days ago, dh called her after receiving a msg from his brother saying his whole family is disgusted in him and their deceased brother would be rolling in his grave seeing how my dh turned out! If anyone knew my dh they would know he is the most quiet, caring, placid soul. He asked what the msg is about and why his family is disgusted in him. He said he's had enough of all this drama.
Mil screamed at him that she has gotten legal advice and she has lots of money so be prepared for them to take us to court.
So if this makes sense, she got legal advice before we had actually heard from her and now shes saying be prepared for a fight.
So what are our chances we can say we dont want these people in dd life and win at court. Im so heartbroken. I cant sleep and my poor dh is stressed like ive never seen. We cant afford to even go to court but if we have a chance of winning we will sell up and do what we have to do to stop these people brainwashing our daughter.
I have since spoken to inlaws asking why they are doing this to us and why they hate me so much. They have been slandering me to other family members and these family members are contacting dh on social media slandering me.
Ive contacted legal aid who tell me grandparents do have rights to see grandkids and we dont have rights apparantly to stop that! Im gobsmacked. not to mention scared as mil said to me im an unfit mother as i battled pnd with dd and shes taking it further.
If anyone knows me on here you will see i went through years of infertility only to conceive dd and ds through ivf. They are my everything. Im so scared of what they are doing to us
Hope this makes sense. Thank u for reading