As I said, we haven't decided either way whether to stop TTC or not yet. We both still really want kids with the other. We have talked it through, and we will not actively try but not prevent either. This is our choice to make. I am fully aware of the stresses a baby could put on us. But it could have done that anyway. If it breaks us, it breaks us, and we deal with it.
However, I know one of us deciding to put it off without the full agreement of the other, would be the end. Neither of us want that.
@lilypily- as stated, I KNOW he didn't cheat physically. I have proof. I will not share that here. He may in the future, sure. But it's a good sign that he's being honest and seeking support.
I am not leaving my husband. He felt it was just flirting, I felt it was cheating. I have made myself very, very clear to him. Now, we work on it.