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    Op good on you for taking that step. Hopefully now you can both have a good talk when he gets home from work. Big hugs xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by TwiddleDiddle View Post
    Sorry you are going through a tough time... I don't know how to say this as I don't want it to come across as narky. If you want the closeness with your hubby to return then lead by example. TALK to him about what's going on don't text him.... At work. Texting is a recipe for misunderstanding and disaster.
    I have been trying to do this for over 6 months. He wasn't interested. So I lost it.
    Read the OP again.

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    Unfortunately, he didn't get home until late, and we were both to tired to talk about it properly. We've set up a time to discuss it Saturday morning (yes, like an appointment lol).

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Unfortunately, he didn't get home until late, and we were both to tired to talk about it properly. We've set up a time to discuss it Saturday morning (yes, like an appointment lol).
    Good luck with your talk, I hope you can both nut it out and move forward positively.

    You did the right thing to speak up

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    Good plan, maybe consider writing a letter with your thoughts and feelings for him to read in his own time and then on Saturday, you guys can discuss it all once he's had some time to digest and think about it? That might not work for his personality, but you can make that call x

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    Or a list of points for you to follow in the day.
    I get so upset I lose track of what we have covered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Unfortunately, he didn't get home until late, and we were both to tired to talk about it properly. We've set up a time to discuss it Saturday morning (yes, like an appointment lol).
    I think an appointment is a good thing! We schedule all other really important things in life, why not relationship things too! Good luck!

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    My suggestion is get out of the house, or out of your regular space to talk if you want to both be able to focus, e.g. kids with a babysitter or whatever. It might help to be on neutral territory

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    Unfortunately, he didn't get home until late, and we were both to tired to talk about it properly. We've set up a time to discuss it Saturday morning (yes, like an appointment lol).

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    I was writing a letter, but actually like the bullet point thing more. He would find that less confronting.

    As for getting out of the house, and regular space, the only time we spend in the house is Saturday mornings. The kids are away from today so that's not an issue. Public won't work, he will not talk around others.
    Home is neutral ground- it is as much his space, as mine.

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    Good luck for Saturday OP? Are things a little awkward at home since the text.


 

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