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    Default Today I told my husband...

    ...that I felt alone. That I have felt, for over 6 months, that we are living separately. That we are more like roommates than a couple.

    To say he was shocked would be an understatement. He didn't text back for over an hour, his work colleague called me and said he was taking him for a drink, and then, finally, I received a text, "Are you leaving me?".

    No, my Dear Husband, I am not leaving you. I love you, and I know you love me. However, you have been distant and unappreciative for months. And whenever I have tried to bring it up gently, I have been brushed aside with, "I just need to finish xyz at work"; "I'm tired"; "it will work out"; etc.
    It was time to bring out the big guns.

    I am sorry I scared you so, DH, but I am sick of feeling this way. You have said you are not upset, but shocked and awake. That this has given you a wake-up call.

    I hope so BH, because if not... I can't live with a husband and feel so alone for much longer.

    ETA: I hate that i also had to do this while he was at work. It's the only time he reads through his messages properly.
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    (((hugs))) I hope he takes it all seriously and you guys can get back to a happy place x

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    Best of wishes for you and you manage to get sorted. Hugs.

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    I hope he comes home to you with his eyes open and his ears ready to listen, and you both can sit down and really communicate heart to heart. it is sad that you had to send him a message while he was at work. that shows how disconnected you have become. I hope you can get some solutions and heal some of the hurt. marie

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    Hugs hun.
    I had to do the same thing a few weeks ago. We argued for the whole day.
    I'm glad you don't have to go through that.
    But we are working it out. He is making a big effort to change the way he is behaving.
    I really hope you have a good outcome.

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    Thank you all. It is so nice to read kind thoughts.
    I have no doubt that we can work it out, but I do know it won't ever be the same.
    That is okay, as long as we are both happy. Which, I know, at the moment we are not.

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    Huge hugs! It takes some strength to be upfront when something's wrong. xx

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    Sorry you are going through a tough time... I don't know how to say this as I don't want it to come across as narky. If you want the closeness with your hubby to return then lead by example. TALK to him about what's going on don't text him.... At work. Texting is a recipe for misunderstanding and disaster.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TwiddleDiddle View Post
    Sorry you are going through a tough time... I don't know how to say this as I don't want it to come across as narky. If you want the closeness with your hubby to return then lead by example. TALK to him about what's going on don't text him.... At work. Texting is a recipe for misunderstanding and disaster.
    Op said that she has tried to talk to him. He is dismissive and not letting her talk.
    I get that all the time.
    Sometimes it just takes a txt to get the ball rolling.


 

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