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    Default WWYD: work colleague problem

    You'll need some background for this one. I started a new job when I was 6 months pregnant with DS1, worked 2 months and went on leave. When DS1 was about 4 weeks old I went to a farewell dinner for a staff member. While there DS1 got grizzly and the lady that was holding him stuck her finger in his mouth and refused to give him back to me. Later found out she is the wife of a colleague.

    Fast forward to DS2 at 5 weeks of age. Grizzles and work colleague sticks finger in mouth. I make a comment to ds2 about X not wanting baby slobber on his finger and to take it out of his mouth.

    DS3 at the age of 3 months met X's wife and within a few minutes she puts her finger in his mouth. I make the same sort of comment and she tells me she has washed her hands. Eventually she gives him back to me.

    So today I had to go to work for a while. DS3 is almost 5 months old and was happily playing on my office floor when X came in. I turn around and notice that he has his finger in his mouth so I tell him that DS3 has a toy there he can chew on and essentially get told he likes the finger better. X eventually leaves the office and I get the story from the girl I share an office with (I had my back turned to start with). DS3 was happily lying on the floor when X knelt down next to him. DS3 grabbed his hand to play with it and X stuck out 2 fingers and put them in his mouth and rubbed his gums. The same sort of thing happened when DS3 was only 5 weeks.

    So I want to know if I'm wrong for thinking this is icky and what you would do the next time it happens.
    Last edited by amyd; 13-01-2015 at 23:30.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HappyBovine View Post
    Wait have I read that right. Your work colleague put his fingers in your DS's mouth and then put those same fingers into his (work colleague's) mouth and rubbed them around the inside?

    If so, eww that is really really strange and makes me feel icky just reading it. In terms of what to do next time, I would be making sure there was never a next time. I wouldn't be letting my baby anywhere near X.
    Whoops, that didn't come across right. I'm going to edit - X rubbed them around DS3's mouth, not his own.

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    I think both of them sound really wierd and I'm not sure why you have your kids any where near this couple. Wtf are they doing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HappyBovine View Post

    Still weird though. I absolutely hated people putting their fingers in my kids mouth's when they were babies. I mean, you don't just go and randomly put your finger in an adults mouth, why do people think it is okay to do to a baby?

    I would still be keeping my baby away from X to avoid having it happen again.
    Yep this.

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    Thats weird as. I used to put my finger in ds' mouth to help settle him but would never let anyone else do it!

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    I would definitely say 'can you please get your finger out of my child's mouth'

    But that is just me, whenever I have seen anyone do it, even to their own child I just imagine all the germs under their fingernails and makes me feel gross. Disgusting.

    People, especially work colleagues shouldn't go around thinking that is acceptable behaviour.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HappyBovine View Post
    Phew glad it wasn't what I thought you meant.

    Still weird though. I absolutely hated people putting their fingers in my kids mouth's when they were babies. I mean, you don't just go and randomly put your finger in an adults mouth, why do people think it is okay to do to a baby?

    I would still be keeping my baby away from X and his wife to avoid having it happen again.
    Yep I agree with this as well..

    Totally weird.. im stunned that someone would do this....

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    Don't allow it just say "hey....we're a no fingers in orfices family."

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    I think I would just say ' can you please not put your fingers in my child's mouth, thanks'. I freaked out when the lactation consultant told me to put *my* finger in DS mouth just after was born, I would go into some kind of germaphobe meltdown if someone else did it!

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    God no thats just disgusting. My MIL did it to DD just last night TWICE not only has she been sick but she licked her own fingers, dunked them in sauce before putting them in her mouth. DD is 11 wks she shouldnt be having seafood sauce that has had frigging prawns dragged through it for one and two even if it were okay you do not use your dirty grotty fingers that have been peeling prawns, touching utensils in a all you can eat restaurant and licked IN HER MOUTH. Argh

    Washed or not guarantee they arent clean they shouldn't be doing it
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