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    Default Unplanned number 3 - STRESSING about telling other half :(

    I need advice please as I'm stressing! We have two lovely girls 1 & 3 and I've just found out I'm pregnant again- completely unplanned- it was a moment we should have been more careful. ☺️
    I am so scared to tell my partner as he really didn't want another child, mainly due to financial reasons. I know he'll blame me for not going on the pill - he wanted me to go on the pill but I hate it as it makes me a crazy person emotionally, so I wanted to use other methods...
    I adore kids and can see past the financial strain, but I doubt he will. I've know for a few days now, so realy need to tell him. I'm so sad it won't be a happy announcement.
    Anyone else been in this situation?

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    He could of easily worn a condom if he didn't want another baby that much, which doesn't affect his hormones and mood like the pill affects you? It takes two people to make a baby and clearly given he already has 2 kids he knows how babies are made.

    By the sounds you are tentatively happy, so I'm going to say congratulations.

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    It takes 2. I haven't been in this position but I'm hoping he surprises you be being really positive.

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    I agree with the above. If he didn't want anymore children he should have worn a condom. He has no right to blame you, he is an adult and capable of making adult decisions and he chose to have sex without protection.

    Congratulations on your pregnancy, I hope he takes it better then you think otherwise remind him, he decided not to wear a condom, not you.

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    Congratulations.


    I hope he surprises you and is happy (or doesnt take too long to come around)


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    Big big hugs. We found out that our surprise #3 is on the way only two weeks ago. I was nervous but DH was amazing and hugged me and told me he loved me. I kept saying sorry but he was incredible. And pointed out that it wasn't my 'fault'.

    I know how you're feeling, I hope your DH is supportive and understanding. This isn't anyone's fault, these things happen.

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    Default Unplanned number 3 - STRESSING about telling other half :(

    Thanks so much, all of your words give me comfort .
    He is the best Dad, I just know he is going to stress and really worry about $$ - I've been on mat leave for last 12 months (and was made redundant during that time!) and planned to starting looking for a job next month. This changes everything. Exciting but scary times x
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    I know that feeling! I've only been back at work for two months and now any work plans I had have to go out the window.

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    Default Unplanned number 3 - STRESSING about telling other half :(

    Oh and we literally sold the bassinet and gave away a heap of baby things last week! Arghhhhh I feel so silly 😞

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    How are things? Have you told your partner yet?


 

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