I'll post a couple here
And see if the site gives me the privileges....
Otherwise, is one of the Mods able to assist? I'm aware we can't post this counsellor's name publicly. Thanks!
Yep that's right you need 5 posts to send or receive pm's.
Best wishes la vecchia. Whatever you decide. Xx
And yes you can post the counsellors name if you choose.
Or explora can on it to me who can send it on ( you can get pm's from admin anytime)
LaVecchia, I have never been in your position but I want to offer you another perspective. What do you think your opinion of your current situation might be in 5 years time? No baby is guaranteed of having both parents around long term even if they are happily married at the start. Every mother faces the prospect of ending up a single mother either by relationship breakdown or death. So there are no guarantees there. In 5 years time your fertility will be gone and you may or may not be still with this gentleman. You may resent him later if you terminate now. If you delay child bearing any longer it is possible you will be in the position of many of us on the ivf boards, wishing we had taken advantage of our fertility while we had it. If you have not had your AMH, FSH and multiple other fertility tests run, you do not know if this conception was a bit of a fluke or whether you truly do have good fertility for your age.
Hello to all you kind souls who took the time to reply to my story. I'm sorry it has taken me a while to get back to this thread, I'm sure you'll understand it's been busy for me, and it still continues....we have been working through counselling with a psychologist recommended by my GP and all the possibilities. Not an easy time. Thank you for taking the time to reccommend your counsellor @Explora, but unfortunately I didn't feel comfortable going to her. I googled her to find out the location, and unfortunately discovered on my first page of results that she is on the Victorian Board of Right to Life Australia, and manager of their counselling service "Pregnancy Counselling Australia" - this wasn't really the impartial counselling we were needing, but thank you.
We are continuing our work, and whatever the result, attending these sessions, and having this experience is strengthening our relationship, which can only be a positive for our future together. Thank you all again.
Although I'm not exactly in the same situation relationship wise - but I was 37, career etc, single and hooked up with my ex and was pregnant within 2 months. It can and does happen so any shame you initially expressed "like an irresponsible teenager" just drop it. You're the poster girl for fertility and heaps of ladies both here and in real life just want to b!tch slap that fertility Godess. You have have something special happen to you.
I have typed, retyped and deleted a dozen different responses but none appropriate as you are considering your options. I just wanted to wish you strength and patience and to let you know that we are all hear to listen and talk. Best of luck!
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