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    Default Refusal to use the toilet/potty

    My DD (2 years 4 months) knows when she needs to go to the toilet in advance and can hold on if necessary and even stop the flow if she needs to but she refuses to go on the toilet or potty. She doesn't say she is scared of it or anything she just doesn't want to, she wants to wear nappies.

    Any advice on how to get her to overcome this? Make her interested in the potty/toilet?

    She comes to the toilet with us to see what its all about. Have just tried the 3 day potty training method with 0% success, by day 3 she is just more comfortable with peeing on the floor (on day 1 this was very upsetting to her).

    Have offered treats for going on the toilet, rewards. Have tried reading to her on there and giving her drawing to do while on the toilet, as soon as she realises something is about to come out she hops off.

    Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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    Be consistent with a reward chart. It may take a Couple of weeks to sink in. Make sure mummy and dad (or dolly) get a reward when they go too so your tot can learn b example.

    Buy a book that outlines going to the toilet procedures (pull undies down, wash hands etc) and read it every night. I got my DS the book toilet time which comes with a reward chart. The chart is pictured in the book which is great.

    Make the biggest fuss ever if your little one does a wee or poo on the toilet.

    Good luck

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    We are at the same stage with our DS. I would suggest forgetting about it for a few weeks then trying again. Forcing the issue may just cause her unnecessary stress and anxiety.

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    Following....my son is 2yr 7months. I'm hoping he decides 1 day (very soon) he ditches nappies and just starts the toilet.

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    I would leave it for a little while longer. Then introduce marshmallows. Worked for us in 5 days but only because DS was truly ready and we didn't make it a pressure thing at all. A month earlier and it would have failed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    I would leave it for a little while longer. Then introduce marshmallows. Worked for us in 5 days but only because DS was truly ready and we didn't make it a pressure thing at all. A month earlier and it would have failed.
    Yep this. Our son was very close to 3. He hadn't shown any interest at all so I didn't push it even though I knew he could hold on and had good control etc. Once he had decided he was ready we were done day and night in 3 days. It really is worth waiting untill they are ready. Good luck.

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    Try again in a couple of months. Sounds like she's not ready yet.

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    I agree with other give her a bit more time. My first two were well and truly trained by three but my youngest is three and only just getting the hang of it now and is happy to do so.

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    My DD is 3.5yrs and not yet toilet trained. She gets the concept, tells me when she's done a poo and sometimes a wee, but when we've tried going nappy-free it has been a disaster. She'll get it soon, we're not forcing the issue. I would say just wait a little longer.

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    Sometimes you just need to give yourself and her a break and revisit it in another month. Don't force it or make it negative. I found that a month made a huge difference with my daughter. She was trained by 2.5 but a lot of people told me that I shouldn't of even bothered starting till 2.5, I can kind of see why. Would have been quicker and easier as she was a different baby. They do grow and change so much and it's the same for potty training :-)

    Good luck!

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