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    Default Feeling selfish...

    Bub is 1.5 week old and I also have DS 4 and DD 2.
    I have breastfed my toddlers till they are 1.
    But this time round I am thinking about formula feeds. My milk came in later than the previous times and while waiting for it to come in I was topping up with formula and bubby is so settled with formula because it's thicker and it keeps him fuller for longer which gives me a break and time to deal with the toddlers. Also he sleeps better at night which means everyone gets some sleep.
    Now my milk is in (I can pump a good 100ml and more), I have tried feeding him just breast and he wants feeds every 1.5-2 hours and would stay on the boobs for a good 30min or so and would cry after I pull him off and still show signs of hunger and he would refuse a bottle top up. Yesterday the whole day and the night before he's been very unsettled and wouldn't sleep for more than 30 min at a time and the kids were also awake all night crying and it was extremely stressful.
    So last night I stopped giving him breast and just formula and he was SO much better and everyone had a good sleep.
    I really just want to ditch the boob and go with formula, but I feel so selfish for wanting to do that because I don't want to deal with screaming babies.
    Feeling selfish and not sure what to do

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    Even if your reasons are considered selfish, who cares... it's your body and you have every right to do what you think is best for YOU

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    Completely up to you and what you are happy with.

    My DD refused to latch and breast feed so I was expressing and bottle feeding (as well as feeding formula) for the first 2 months. My milk then dried up so she is completely formula fed now.

    I was really upset at the time but now I'm happy as she won't be difficult to feed when she starts childcare in a few weeks.

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    You have no reason to feel selfish! It sounds like baby may have decided the path to go down.

    You should do what works for you and your family.

    Best wishes :-)

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    You are not selfish! Your baby is happier, your older kids are happier bc you have more time for them, you are happier and getting more sleep. You say you want to ditch bfing.... so ditch it! Your baby has had important colostrum for immunity at least.

    Formula is great Tubster. The only thing you need to do is let go of the guilt. Been there done that it and it's not only futile but damaging.

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    Not selfish. Do what you feel is right. If your baby is happy on formula stick with it.

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    Do whatever you want. Before you make a decision just consider that the newborn **** period should get better after 6 weeks, and once that happens are you going to be ok wih preparing bottles and not breastfeeding?

    Not saying you shouldn't bottle feed by any means, just be extra cautious when making decisions in the heat of the moment.

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    If it means a happy mum and baby go for it! F*** what anyone else thinks!

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    It's not selfish.
    Your baby is more settled and the house calmer when on formula.
    He is still hungry after every breastfeed.

    Go with formula. Clearly you all need it.

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    You're not selfish! You know what's best for your baby and your family. Don't doubt your choices or let anyone tell you what to do!


 

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