Does anyone drink herbal tea post pregnancy? My mom (and grandma) has been pressuring me to drink traditional chinese herbal thingy that they bought from chinatown. My refusal was not taken lightly, as grandma has threathened to ignore me for the rest of my life for not listening to her, while mom finally backed off eventhough she still tried to push me to drink every now and then. The reason given by grandma when I challanged her was because the herbal tea has been around for 400+ years and every female in the family drank it for 40days after theyve given birth, no other reasonable explanation was given. My DH works as GP and thank God he is on my side fighting off grandma. I feel bad for arguing with her but am stuck trying every possible way to reason with her.
I dont want to distance myself from her because she is an awesome grandma and I know she is forcing me to drink it because she believes it will bring me good.
On top of that, i"ve been experiencing mild (on most days) baby blues and would love to hear from anyone who had experienced difficulty in their first few weeks or months.
This baby is my first born and to be honest I didn't have a clue what I put myself into. I thought having babies would be fun fun fun, not crap sad cry. I was in shock on my first day when my baby cried constantly. I was considering paid help but have decided against it cos I thought caring for baby would be easy breasy, plus our financial situation is not in a very good shape.
DH is currently away until early March so I am on my own. I don't live with grandma but will live with mom in Feb. Currently alone and sometimes I cried at night due to lack of sleep but somehow still managed to pull myself together to fight another day.
I thought having baby at 31 means I would be ready mentally and physically....boy I was wrong.
Labour was a nightmare, admitted to hospital for induction on the 17 Dec (moning) and gave birth on the 19 Dec (morning). Took me 2.5hours to get DB out, was not able to look at DB when they put him on my chest because I was in total shock.
DH helped delivering DB but I was only told how to push correctly when they decided that it was time for the baby to come out. Yep...I didn't push the right way and ruptured some fine blood vessels on my eyes and face. Hated DH for few hours, felt humiliated when the nurses asked me...did your husband not tell you how to push?
anyway...would love to hear from veteran mamas out there, I would like to learn to be a better mom for my DB. I lost my temper few hours ago cos he was constantly crying and mistaken the cry for nap when he was indeed hungry. I LIGHLY spank (please God forgive me) his bum and half yelling at him. I felt bad once he fell asleep after milk (I am holding my tears)