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    Today I have an appointment to see my psychiatrist and I'm feeling really anxious about admitting how unwell I'm feeling. I'm not currently on medication but am sure she will put me on something. I asked DH to come with me but he said no, I have to help myself.

    Multiple failed ivf cycles and resulting issues with DH has left me incredibly depressed. I cry multiple times a day and have little motivation. I'm snapping constantly at DH and we are fighting frequently. I think about suicide but have no plan to do it.

    I guess I'm really worried about admitting how bad things are and I have this fear I will be admitted to a psych unit.

    I'm worried about not feeling good again and I'm just really anxious about what the process will be from here.

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    Big hugs mummymaybe. It can be really scary telling a stranger such personal details about how you've been feeling but I would strongly urge you to please be as honest as possible with your psychiatrist - they can't help you properly unless they know the whole story. Speaking as someone who works in mental health, it's really frustrating when you want to help someone but you know they aren't telling you everything, or you find out later they didn't tell the whole story. It just prolongs the client's distress and delays effective treatment.

    It's highly unlikely that you will be admitted to a psych ward, unless there is much more to what you've been experiencing than you've written in your post.

    And please don't be worried about medication, it can be really useful in getting you back on track and it doesn't mean there's something fundamentally wrong with you - it's a medication formulated to help with a diagnosed medical condition, just the same as other medications help with other medical issues. The most effective treatment for depression though is medication combined with therapy, so if medication is offered, consider a two-pronged approach. Therapy will also help you deal with your suicidal ideation and low moods, and give you ways to cope when these strike - as they may still happen even if you're on medication, albeit to a lesser extent (hopefully).

    I hope your appointment goes well today and you are on your way to feeling better soon.

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    From your comments it sounds like you are on a long and painful journey. Admitting to yourself that you need help on that journey is the first step towards feeling ok about the past, and being able look forward to the future too. Don't hold back during a therapy session. The point is to get you better, not to judge or condemn you. Medication can be scary, but it can really help too.

    If you saw you BF struggling, you'd help him/her to do anything that it took to get back to their usual self. And if that included meds, you'd probably encourage your BF to do it. So do that for yourself. Be your own BF and talk to yourself kindly. Look after yourself, be gentle.

    Big hugs.

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    I'm sorry you're feeling unwell. So pleased you have an appointment. Unless there's a stack more info I think it would be highly unlikely that you would be admitted, especially as an involuntary patient if you aren't a risk to yourself or someone else.
    You also seem to have awareness and insight, both really positive.
    I don't know anything about possible medication but if you trust your psychiatrist, please consider their advice if medication is what they advise.
    I wish you well for your appointment and hope you're ok x

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    Sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time!

    I know that it's daunting to share your deepest and darkest thoughts with a stranger but you will get the most value out of your psychiatrist appointments if you are completely open and honest. He/she is not there to judge you, only to help you through your depression. They need to be able to give you a proper mental health assessment and they can only do that if you tell them precisely what's going on.

    You may find that you need medication in the short term to help you feel better but I would also suggest some complementary therapy to really get to the heart of what's causing your depression. Some psychiatrists focus on the medication and not so much on the underlying issues causing it. If that's the case with the one you're seeing then it's worth looking into a psychologist who specialises in cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Have a quick google on those two terms to get a sense of the type of therapy. Honestly, they have changed my life!

    Good luck! It's a great first step that you're taking. I wish you all the best.

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    How did you go yesterday @mummymaybe?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cat74 View Post
    How did you go yesterday @mummymaybe?
    Thanks for checking in and thanks to everyone for your support.

    It went well, I was as honest as I could be. We are going to try some medication and weekly sessions to talk things through.

    It was so reassuring to be told I'm not crazy and that what I'm feeling is understandable given what's been going on with ivf and general life. I really felt like I had lost the plot completely but she assures me that things will improve soon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummymaybe View Post
    Thanks for checking in and thanks to everyone for your support.

    It went well, I was as honest as I could be. We are going to try some medication and weekly sessions to talk things through.

    It was so reassuring to be told I'm not crazy and that what I'm feeling is understandable given what's been going on with ivf and general life. I really felt like I had lost the plot completely but she assures me that things will improve soon.
    I'm glad you're ok and your appointment sounds reasonably positive.
    How reassuring is it to hear you're not crazy! Love that feeling! As well as some acknowledgement that things have been tough and you've done well to cope with what you have

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    I'm glad that your appointment went well and you've left feeling reasonably positive about things. Going through ivf is so hard and tbh I think the emotional side of it is way harder to deal with than the physical side of it, well for me it is anyway. If there's other stuff going on in your life on top of of all of that, it's not surprising you've been finding things tough. Im glad your psychiatrist was able to reassure you about that.

    I hope things continue to improve for you, good luck with everything!

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    So glad to hear that it went well. I think you will be amazed at how much talking things through with someone who is essentially outside of your everyday life will help you.

    Good luck!


 

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