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    My mummy guilt is always there. I've taken time off, worked part rime, and now full time. Every option has compromises, and I've felt guilty about something no matter what I do.

    My wonderful MIL keeps telling me "Do what feels right for you, don't worry about what other people think". Best advice ever. Hard to do though, when you are judging yourself! A friend of mine has a "guilt box" where she writes down all the things she feels mummy guilt about, then puts the worries in the box, and puts the box away. Out of your head, acknowledged but put away. I'm going to try that this year!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tastychicken View Post
    Not everyone wants to stay home after a baby. Comments like this guilt women into the role when sometimes they want to return to work.
    My baby is four months old and I want to return to work. I had a lot of time off while pregnant because of a high blood pressure and a need to reduce my stress so I'm definitely ready to go back to work. But even if I hadn't had that time off I'm sure I'd still be keen to go back to work. I love my little boy with all my heart but I really need to do something that challenges me mentally. I totally understand why women go back to work full time after only a few months, and not just for financial reasons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Happy Camper View Post
    A friend of mine has a "guilt box" where she writes down all the things she feels mummy guilt about, then puts the worries in the box, and puts the box away. Out of your head, acknowledged but put away. I'm going to try that this year!
    I so need one of those!!!

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    I didn't mean to offend anyone, sorry. I just meant she may think returning to work is what she wants now but it may not be what she wants when the baby is actually here.
    Sorry to anyone I offended

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    My bub is 3.5 months old and I'm returning to work 1 day per week, this week, building up to full time by 1 March.
    I wanted to go back to work after 4-6 weeks.
    Partly because I love my job
    Partly because I'm good at my job and I didn't think I was very good at this mothering gig. I didn't understand DS at all
    Partly because I was so crazy bored it wasn't funny
    And finally partly because of PND which made me have some fairly weird and negative thoughts.
    The decision to return was not made lightly but is the right decision for our family.
    I'll be paying around $100 per day with some CCR but no CCB.
    It's worth it to us not only because it's less than the income I'll bring but also for my mental health.

    As others have said, think about what your child care options are and what they might cost. Family, family day care, child care centre, other options.
    Add to this, the other costs of bubs - nappies, formula if you need it etc. will you be able to manage financially?

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    Thank you all for your feedback. I really appreciate it. I have no idea how paid parental leave and all the centrelink benefits work. Am i best to chat to centrelink about what i am entitled to?

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    If your a worker and dh earns under 150k then you will get $641 per week for 18weeks plus any workplace leave

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    http://www.humanservices.gov.au/cust...ntal-leave-pay

    As for other entitlements google centerlink calculator

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kazza78 View Post
    If your a worker and dh earns under 150k then you will get $641 per week for 18weeks plus any workplace leave
    Hi kazza thank you for that. Is that after tax????

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubbles1984 View Post
    Hi kazza thank you for that. Is that after tax????
    That's before tax


 

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