I fully apologise if his turns into a rant post but I honestly don't know who to turn to.
I'm 18 in a couple weeks and have just given birth my my DS. He's everything I love and I'm blessed to have him. His father on the other hand is a completely different story.
All throughout my pregnant he's been really difficult. He didn't get a job for ages and then quit his job after working in it for 6 weeks. Spent the money that he'd saved for baby stuff on a new bike. I had to fight him tooth and nail to pay half of one ultra sound. He wouldn't move in with me to my house. We've broken up several times because the relationship has been completely on his terms and I've done everything I could to make this work for our child. I've dealt with threats from his sister after we broke up one time and he's been a complete *** to my family.
My family is such a big part of my life. I'm extremely close to them and I still live at home and they've helped me every step of the way. They've paid for everything I needed for the baby and during pregnancy except half an ultra sound. I couldn't work and they literally without fuss have paid for everything without wanting me to pay them back.
During birth my boyfriend disappeared for an hour while I was crying in pain. Thank goodness I had my mum there with me otherwise i would have been alone. I find out later that he went to see his mum who was downstairs in the hospital. Then he let his family show up just after id given birth. Literally I was getting stitches and they were at the door. So he walks out the door and sits with them in the waiting room leaving me once again without someone to hold my hand except my mum. The next day he brings more family after not even staying the night (I guess you can guess who stayed) and the next day went home before they put me in the ward. I was not coping and needed someone to help me so I called him and got no answer. I then had to beg my parents to come in and help me.
Two days ago we got into a big fight where he said he'll only talk to my family if he has too as he's being civil. He won't be my four year old brothers best friend. He won't play with him. And then three days ago he actually pushed my four year old brother away from him and he fell against the coffee table. Needless to say my parents are livid and my midwife came and saw me a mess.
I'm now worried about our son. Is he going to push him away if he tries to ask his dad to play with him? We've barely talked and my parents don't want him in the house. He's said some horrible things and I'm not sure if we can still be together. I have no idea what to do as now I have to sort out visitation all 4 days after giving birth.