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    Can anyone help me? I have social services interfering all because of my age and experience with kids, I've had my baby, she's happy an healthy and I've got loads of support, but they're being ridiculous! They said they were there to "support us and take off the pressure" when all they have done is the complete opposite, not to mention the social worker I have been given is useless and we're going to sue her for the damage she's done! I've sent in a letter to complain to her workplace and the local mp but it's taking weeks to do any affect! I'm sick of these visits almost everyday!- can anyone please suggest anything??? It's driving me crazy and I feel like I can't talk to anyone because (my social workers exact words) "you don't have a private life anymore"...

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    Quote Originally Posted by stroodle77 View Post
    Can anyone help me? I have social services interfering all because of my age and experience with kids, I've had my baby, she's happy an healthy and I've got loads of support, but they're being ridiculous! They said they were there to "support us and take off the pressure" when all they have done is the complete opposite, not to mention the social worker I have been given is useless and we're going to sue her for the damage she's done! I've sent in a letter to complain to her workplace and the local mp but it's taking weeks to do any affect! I'm sick of these visits almost everyday!- can anyone please suggest anything??? It's driving me crazy and I feel like I can't talk to anyone because (my social workers exact words) "you don't have a private life anymore"...
    What do you mean age and experience with kids? Why are they coming in the first place?

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    Have they said why they are coming daily? I've never heard of social services visiting daily because of someone's age.

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    This sounds really confusing, they can't just pop in everyday due to your age. That is a waste of their time and resources especially if your child is well looked after.

    Have they actually told you in depth why they are constantly visiting?

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    Unless your under 16 with no family support I don't understand why they would be visiting so often.

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    It seems like there is a lot of information missing here.

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    Hun it sounds like you need help. Perhaps social services are trying to help you. Roll with it and things may get better xx

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    The dept doesn't have daily contact with a mother with lots of support based soley on their age. Despite what people try to say, they are just too busy to intervene for no reason.

    I'm unsure of your issues but clearly it's more than being a young or older mum.

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    I'm 17, and haven't had experience with babies really, I have a ton of family support and the visits for the first week was everyday, where I was at my mums with lots of support, I can assure you there is no missing info, my social worker is a very bad one to be honest, my sister had a social worker due to something with school and we spoke to hers about it and even she said that my social worker is talking a load of rubbish and that's coming from someone with the same profession! My social worker asked me what I needed help with, so I told her that I needed help with housing and transport - she's completely ignored that and luckily my mum has helped me sort it, I've also been told to "carry on as normal" but god forbid if I'm out seeing my family who haven't met my baby yet due to distance! I've been told by health professionals to sleep when baby does and one day she just shows up and walks into my bedroom while me and baby were sleeping and disturbed my little one, she puts words into my mouth and try to play me and my mum off, me and my partner and everyone else, she's a compulsive liar as well and I'm not being over the top, some accused my own mother of being an alcoholic which really upsets me because she hasn't touched a drop of alcohol and she even offered to do one of those blood count alcohol tests but they refused?? And my social worker said "we'll have to monitor your mums drinking problem" and when my mum confronted her about it she says "I don't know where that came from" and also said "we need proof to monitor it" which they have no proof and they're still monitoring an invisible drinking problem, she also told me I couldn't take my baby out for 2 weeks! She's told me a lot of false information as I've checked with health professionals and they've also said what's she's saying and doing is a load of rubbish

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    But why is she coming in the first place?

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