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    Default DH really doesn't like my sister's husband

    So as the title says, my DH really does not like my sisters husband (G). I'm not sure whether G is aware of this or not as he still talks to DH.
    I am totally in agreement with my DH. G is rude, selfish, antisocial and obnoxious. However, since they got engaged me and most of my family have tried to put our dislike of him aside for the sake of my sister and her kids.
    My problem is that DH just can't seem to do this. Every time we see then he starts with 'I hope G won't be there'. Well of course he will be he is married to my sister. The foul mood then begins. DH usually refuses to speak the whole way home and will remain in this mood usually for the rest of the night.
    I've tried to talk to him about how this is not fair on me but he can't seem to change. His only solution is for us not to see them which for me isn't an option, I would never not see my sister and her kids.
    How do I talk to my DH about this and get him to see it from my point of view? I totally understand where he is coming from about G but I don't see what I can do to change it!

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    Can you see your sister and her kids without your dh?

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    Tell your DH that unless G was a 9/10 on the ******** scale (abusive etc) if he loved you he would put your need to have a relationship with your sister before his own need to make a stand against a dude he doesn't like.

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    No help but very similar situation here... I had started to warm towards my sister's partner but then he did some dodgy stuff and she was thinking of leaving but in the end she's stayed. DH and I both whinge about him though, but I know it's not constructive...

    Maybe tell your DH he gets to say one narky thing only and that's it? I'd have a sit down talk about it if it's really bothering you and he's being a cranky so-and-so.

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    My sister married a guy no one liked 30 something years ago. We all just got on with life. We love her so just put up with him. Over the years he got better and we become friends.

    Your dh doesn't have the right to stop you enjoying time with your sister and her kids. If he loves you he will learn that encouraging you and your sister relationship will make life better for you and in turn him. Making life difficult for your relationship will only cause trouble.

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    Your DH needs to learn that in families, unless someone is abusive or totally revolting etc... then you have to be Gary Get-a-long and just roll with it. He needs to understand that his behaviour is hurting *you* and that's not ok.

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    A simple grow up might suffice

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    I think he needs to suck it up and be polite. Everyone has to be around people they don't like at some point.

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    I kind of understand. I absolutely cannot stand my BILs girlfriend. She is a toxic person who really leaves me feeling drained. DH had an argument with her a couple of years ago so if she sees me at the shops or whatever with DH I just get a hi, if DH isn't there she will hold me up for ages yakking like we are long lost friends. We do our best to avoid seeing her. BIL still lives with my parents in law so we quite successfully have a relationship with him but not her. That being said, if we do all end up at the same function, you slap on a fake smile and get through it. No point letting it ruin your night.

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    Tbh i have this issue. But in the story i am your dh. And i dont think i do need to suck it up. If i dont like someone then i dont hafto.

    I fake it till we are out of there, im quiet and basically avoid conversation but them I'm in a foul mood afterwards.

    You cant make someone like someone or want to be around them.

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